Do you forgive and forget, or hold a grudge...

Asked by Meego (4697) December 28th, 2010 from iPhone

Ok so I just need some advice. My common law husband passed away in nov 09. He had a lot of money we never had a will done he was only 40, I took care of him after he got sick we also lived in the same house. When my husband was in the hospital my mother in law was not there ever until his dying moments and even then she only talked about his $ as it was him and I who were paying her mortgage and her son who had his mothers house in his and her name. Needless to say she told me to call our financial person and find out what we had to do from there. When I found out I called her, she asked me what he said I told her anyway she took the info and filed herself for executor of the will! She was really nice the first few months helping me then she turned nasty, and stopped talking to me. I have no credit and she said I either had to get a mortgage to keep my husbands and I home or move. I have no credit everything was in my husbands name except for the joint car loan. So I moved. In comes nasty once I got settled and my home was sold and my husband and I owed the bank 97 grand of a 125 grand mortgage and I got 137 grand for the house. My mother in law gave me what she said was leftover ready for this…27 grand!!! Haha she jipped me I got angry, she also has in stock my husbands and I’s just over 70 grand that she claimed! She is a 68 obese barely moving person WTF! She has more money than that too as she also sold her house. Ok so fast forward she sends me all these nasty emails basically telling me to get out of her life..lol now that she has me and my daughters money! I want her to have a relationship with her granddaughter well of course it’s Christmas she has told my daughter she wants me to come visit her as well because she bought me a present. I’m so fricken angry at her I don’t think she deserves my company. She told my daughter she would take us out for supper. Ok whatever. You take my money, my car engine blows I have to spend almost every penny I own on a new car and to keep 2 dogs and a teenager alive, all while I’m on disability, and she can take us out for supper spend money here there and everywhere, actually it makes me I’ll. Do I just suck it up and go or come up with some excuse and just let the teen go?