Confused about my guy friend's feelings for me?
I’ve been friends with my guy friends since summer – about 6 months. We went out for the third time this past week. I’ve always had the feeling we were a little more than friends, but he never made a move more than holding my hand once to help me through a crowd when we went out for the second time, and we’ve hugged on numerous occasions. He also offers to help with school work and drives wherever we go. We are both in college working towards medical school, he’s a year ahead of me and we normally hang out in the library together- he’s always sitting next to me, grabbing a chair for me. He’s a really nice guy, holds doors, and has paid for dinner when we’ve been out. He’s also been there for me when I was in the hospital 4 weeks ago, was really concerned and turned a final term paper in for me.
Here’s where it “went down”. I called and wished him a happy new year (left a voicemail) and didn’t hear anything from him. Worried, I texted him last night and he immediately called me. He was playing a video game with his guy friends, and stepped out to talk to me. We had the friendship talk. It turns out I am his only friend that is a girl that he’s really ever had and who he goes out and does things with, and he is not ready to have a relationship. He asked me “I feel like you are really into me?” I reciprocated the question back to him because it seems like he feels the same way, but since he’s never had a girlfriend that he may not know what to do? He kept calling himself a loser, and a lost puppy, and I told him to stop, that he didn’t need to act that way. We agreed to be friends and that we’re both not ready to be in a relationship, and that we’re going to let whatever happen. But, I honestly feel like he likes me. I feel like when he’s ready to go to the next step, then he will come around.. does any of this make since to all who are reading this? I’m going to see him when classes start back up Tuesday and fall back into routine. Do you think he feels like he hurt my feelings.. he kept asking, “Are you ok?” I said, “We are two mature adults, and I felt like this conversation was coming.” I told him I would never stop being friends with him just because he didn’t want a relationship. He’s almost 23 by the way. I’m not sure how to carry on with him now.. He said he may feel like dating somewhere down the line if we would get to the point. In my view, if he’s never had a friend that’s a girl, he’s never had a girlfriend, then he doesn’t really know what to do with girls.. maybe he’s just not ready?