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(NSFW) What turns you girls on the most during sexual intercourse?

Asked by jabag11 (670 points ) January 3rd, 2011

Name the top 5 things that turns you girls on during sexual intercourse and the top 5 things that turn you “off”. I am a 19 year old male just curious to hear it from the ladie’s perspectives, seeing that usually you ladies wouldn’t say so in person.

So this is your chance to say so over the internet! I’ll spread the world! we can make the world a better place! lol Just kidding. alright well be honest and specific! =D.

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kenmc's avatar

1) Focus on the clitoris.
2) Focus on the clitoris.
3) Focus on the clitoris.
4) Focus on the clitoris.
5) Focus on the clitoris.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

Mix it up. Get me really turned on before going in for the kill (oral or otherwise). Pay attention to my fingers, the back of my knees, my toes, and especially my neck and ears (those are big ones for me. I’ve orgasmed with nothing but attention to my neck).

Things that really turn me off: Trying to finish before I’m warmed up. Saying “who’s your daddy”.

Seelix's avatar

Don’t try to get near the back door unless you’ve talked about it first. It’s awkward and ruins the moment.

finallyhere's avatar

I can tell you do not act like you’re filming a porn. A woman wants to feel loved, not like you have a camera hidden somewhere. Realize, that very FEW women orgasm through intercourse. It’s all about the clitoris….Just because it’s pleasurable for you, does not mean she’s “into it.” Pay attention to HER needs (clitoris) while intercourse…

wundayatta's avatar

Personally, I think it’s the story you tell while making love. It’s not about getting your rocks off as soon as possible. It’s also not, as @kenmc seems to think, all about the clitoris. It’s about making a woman feel totally loved and cared for so she can relax and go wild, knowing she is safe with this man.

Since it’s a story, it’s not about some important part of her body. @papayalily showed you how there are spots all over her body that make her feel cared for; like you notice; and want to please her.

You can tell a story with your body and your movements and without words, although the right words can really enhance the moment. It’s possible to get a woman completely outside of herself, just using words. It’s a kick in the head when at the end, you leave her utterly wordless. “Wow! Just wow!”

Oh shit. What a cool scene. You’re sitting next to each other, facing each other, and you tell her what to do with her hands and all the while she’s looking a you, this searchlight intensity in her eyes, and she works herself up and you’re looking at her…. I get all scrumly in my tummy thinking about it.

But, no words. Just your body. Telling her how to please herself. Teasing. Making her want you because she’s so excited and can totally feel you inside her, but she can’t have you, yet. That sort of thing.

So listen. I offer classes in this kind of thing. ..........................

lololol

SavoirFaire's avatar

I agree with @wundayatta that it is definitely not all about the clitoris. Nor is focusing on it always a good idea. Some women cannot take direct attention to the clitoris for long (or at all), and it is not good technique to assume otherwise. Women are different, and so are their sexual wants and needs.

That said, the women can obviously respond for themselves.

kenmc's avatar

@wundayatta @SavoirFaire I did not say that it was all about the clitoris. I said to focus on it. Not the same at all.

deni's avatar

@papayalily who’s your daddy oh my god the horror. I would lose it if someone said that to me in the middle of sex. I might die of laughter.

I like being teased for…..ever. Til I can’t take it anymore. Forearms and neck do it for me. I like a gentle touch, I really like kissing, and I’d rather play with him than him play with me, if I had to pick one. It turns me on way more, not sure why, but I don’t mind.

And….I have to disagree with the above. It is ABSOLUTELY ABSOLUTELY ABSOLUTELY NOT ALL ABOUT THE CLITORIS. In fact you go for the clitoris too soon and I might bite off your damn arm.

SavoirFaire's avatar

@kenmc My comment concerns both being “all about” the clitoris and focusing on it. So the fact that they are not the same is irrelevant. I addressed both.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

@SavoirFaire Kenmc was making a “tongue in cheek” comment. Unclench.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

I like for my hubby to use his hands, fingers and tongue. Everywhere.

I don’t like to feel probing at my rear portal, as that location is “Exit Only”.

SavoirFaire's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate I would have thought that at first too, but it seems not to be the case given the defensiveness. Regardless, I only noted my disagreement originally for the sake of not letting what might have been a joke mislead.

No clenching here, though. It’s bad for you!

Coloma's avatar

A good smelling partner, well groomed partner

Sweet little nothings whispered in my ear

Shaved testicles

Experience in oral pleasure

A curved penis that stimulates my ‘G’ spot. (This is subject of course, as it’s rather ‘hard’ to ask about curvature prior to a first encounter, but, a definite preference lol

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

@SavoirFaire Trust me on this. I’ve known him much much longer than you have. It was a total tongue in cheek statement and you misinterpreted the “defensiveness”. Ken is just a funny guy.

kenmc's avatar

Thanks, AJ :)

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Sure thing love.

SavoirFaire's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate Fair enough. Just read my comment as clarification, then.

CaptainHarley's avatar

It has been my experience that treating the entire person as a sex organ, mind and body, has the greatest impact.

Coloma's avatar

@CaptainHarley

Yes, good reminder. Paying attention the biggest sex organ, the brain. ;-)

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MissAnthrope's avatar

Being spanked
Kissing (if our kissing styles match)
Being bitten/getting hickies
My neck and ears kissed, licked, etc.
My partner being turned on, being vocal

lovespurple's avatar

While having intercourse:
+ 1) Slow, sensual kissing & nibbling on sensitive areas like collarbone, shoulder blades..
+ 2) Being touched everywhere, getting oral stimulation, fingering.., switching up positions.
+ 3) Talking dirty
+ 4) Getting spanked, playful choking, slammed against walls, thrown around a little, the use of blindfolds, handcuffs..
+ 5) Telling me how sexy I am/ @MissAnthrope my partner being turned on & showing it.

- 1) Sloppy, slobbery kissing, drooling on me
– 2) Not being able to “keep it up”
– 3) Talking about work/ not being in the moment with me
– 4) Only caring about getting yourself off then ending everything
– 5) Answering your phone in the middle of it.

xjustxxclaudiax's avatar

I like variety. I don’t like doing the same thing 3 times in a row.
I love being teased and dominated.
Dirty talk and getting spanked is a huge turn on.
I also like to hear their moans, to me its relaxing.
My favorite tho is that my partner doesn’t automatically focus’s on himself, he plays with me a little and makes sure I have a couple orgasms before things get more crazy;)..he’s amazing.

I guess my only turn off would be quickies. I hate being rushed.

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