Predicament with a garter dance @ prom.. HELP, plz!

Wait…I’m confused. Are you dancing with your boyfriend?

Oh, and do you already have a garter?

A high school is allowing boys to pull garters off of underage girls legs???? Are they crazy? What the ?????? If your boyfriend TRULY cared about you, he would be conscious of how you feel and maybe you both can conveniently have to go to the restroom at the same time (when this starts) and then stand chatting away outside the hallway – so lost in talking to each other that you – oops! – missed the moment. Silly you, oh well, there is always next year – get what I am saying? And when next year rolls around – same thing…....

Well, Fluthermother, I hate to tell you this, but it happens. I graduated from high school (a Catholic school, no less) in 2002, and we all did the garter thing. But there was no dance. Personally, I agree with you, it is dumb. But they do it. Anyway, I agree with you.
@sloane: You don’t have to do this dance thing. Take Fluthermother’s advice and “accidentally” skip it, or just sit it out. I think in high school we were all so worried about what other people think, that we forgot about ourselves. If you are really uncomfortable with it, and don’t want to, then don’t do it. And if your boyfriend has a problem with that, then lose him. I know i know. It is easy for me to tell you that, but hard for you to do. But really, this is no big thing. If you absolutely MUST do the dance thing, put it on your knee, or make it into a joke (put it on your shoulder, and then have your guy move it to his thigh (see? sort of the opposite thing happening there… why didn’t I do that?!?!))
Prom is supposed to be fun, not make you uncomfortable.

@Les: They give u garters if u sign ^ & my boyfriend signed me ^ without asking if I wanted 2 do it or not. The girls & boys split n 2 2 groups & the girls throw their garters @ the guys & whichever guy catches ur garter, u must dance with him.. They don’t do the whole “pulling of the garter off the leg” thing.

There r (as typical of all high schools) some truly atrocious people there

*that I certainly would prefer NOT 2 dance with…

Well, then. Don’t worry about it. It seems like it is supposed to be just a goofy fun thing. So, if your garter gets caught by the star of the football team, then go you! If Mr. Nerdy Pants catches it, then no matter what the song is, do the Electric Slide. I think you’ll have more fun if you just don’t worry, and have a good time. Make the best out of the way it turns out.

Please don’t fall into a pattern of doing things your boyfriend tells you to when they make you uncomfortable.

Thanks for making me feel just a tiny bit better – I was thinking of the true wedding thing and I have seen too many drunk grooms using their teeth and other things….. Just tossing the garter isn’t as bad, although I am more than a bit concerned with having clearly sexual symbol being tossed back and forth – why not the coursages? But, again, don’t ever be forced into doing anything you are uncomfortable with.

Just because he signed you up for it doesn’t mean you have to do it. If you aren’t comfortable dancing with someone else, tell him you will sit that part of the evening out. But tell him now so you don’t have the embarrassment of bickering about it at the dance. And if you do decide to do it, just remember it’s one song and it will only last about 3 minutes of your life. it will be over before you know it and you can go on with the rest of your evening and have fun. If you do dance with the other guy, and it’s one of the creepy ones, do some wild steps and have fun with it! If he gets too close “accidentally” kick him or step on his toes.

thank u all so much 4 your incredibley helpful responses. It tuned out perfectly fine last nite because I just dance with my boyfriend. We had a blast.

Thanks for the update. Glad you had fun!