If you need to ask your mom or your sister a question (probably about something that has been bugging you for awhile) write down the questions ahead of time and then say something like this:

“I’ve been thinking about this for awhile and I was wondering if you had a little time where we could talk about XY and Z.”

“This is a little embarassing, but could you spare a little time to explain XY and Z to me?”

“I know you might think this is a little weird, but I’m just not sure what to do about XY and Z. Do you think you could explain it to me a little better?

“Hi Mom, I’ve been thinking about something for awhile that’s been bothering me. I don’t want to get you upset or mad or anything, but I was wondering if we could talk about XY and Z and maybe try to figure out a better way to do it. I’ve really been worrying about it a lot and I think we need to make some changes, maybe I need to make some changes. Do you have a little time to talk about it?”

Now for the teachers:

“Sorry to interrupt, but I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around the concept of XY and Z. Could you put that into a little bit more basic of an explanation?”

“I think I’m still a little unclear about how X and Y effect Z. Could you go over it again?”

“I’m afraid I’m a little unfamiliar with XY and Z. Is there something that you could recommend to me to read to get a little more up to speed on this subject?

“I’m sorry. I’m listening to what you have said about XY and Z, but I’m afraid I’m just not quite understanding it. Could you go over it again?”

Then if you have to go to a teacher or counselor in private (like after class or to their office):

“I’m really having a hard time understanding XY and Z. That subject has always been really hard for me. Do you have any suggestions on how I could figure it out a little easier? Do you have some time where maybe we could sit down and discuss XY and Z a little more?”

“I’m somewhat embarrassed to be asking this, because it appears that everyone else seems to understand XY and Z. I know a little bit about it, but I think I am missing some of the basic information about XY and Z and was wondering if you’d be able to work with me to help fill in some of the blanks?”

“Do you think I should get a tutor to help me with XY and Z? I feel like I’m not getting it as quickly as the others. Where could I find a tutor to help me with this subject?”

“I’ve been noticing that there are some things going on at my house that just don’t seem right, but I don’t want to get anyone in trouble. There’s been a little bit of XY and Z happening at my house when my mom isn’t home. I’m not sure if she even knows about it. Do you have any suggestions on how I could deal with this situation?”