Is it ok for me to spend money on non-essential goods without feeling guilty?

I probably need to speak to a therapist about this, but maybe someone here can help.
-This is going to sound odd but just bear with me
So I’m in the process of looking for a mate. Part of it is “upping” my game and wearing fashionable articles of clothing.
I know what looks good, and what goes with what and what colors/style I should pick/wear. (or at least as much as a straight man can know about fashion)

I don’t have an issue with ‘looking good’, my issue is: I can’t bring myself to spend any money on non-essential items when a big chunk of the world population lives in poverty and that there are kids that go to bed hungry every night. Or that there are human beings who die of starvation every day.

I’m not sending the money I ‘don’t spend’ to help them because I don’t believe charity is the answer. It’s all about educating people. And also when you hear about people like Bill Gates donating something like 10…20 billion dollars and things are still the same on this planet, it kind of makes you rethink the whole thing.

So pretty much the reason I’m boring you with all this is because I would feel great shame and would not want ‘wearing a $120 pair of jeans or an $80 tshirt’ be who I am. Those things should not be a priority imho.

What can I do and who can I get an answer from?