Social Question

janedelila's avatar

Have you ever been so angry that you aren't fit for public? Someone made you sooooo mad that you can't even socialize properly?

Asked by janedelila (3914points) February 26th, 2011

I got to say, I am so effing mad I can’t even talk to other people. The recent SO (since September) just got caught in a terrible lie, which led to me discovering other lies. He ought to thank his lucky stars he didn’t succeed in pressuring me to live with him. But now I can barely stand another human being. It’s been over a week, and I don’t care if another person ever talks to me again. I just keep getting madder and madder. I’ve had no contact with him since, and I’m not really worried about myself becoming antisocial. Just wondering if any of you have ever been this mad.

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

11 Answers

12Oaks's avatar

Maybe, but I never let it show. Not in public with strangers for sure.

saraaaaaa's avatar

I maybe haven’t been as mad, but I have had to walk off and leave all humans for a while because I felt aggressive and full of rage. It’s not an aspect of my personality that I like seeing, as I’m sure is the same for anyone.

Have you given this person their comeuppance? Have they dealt with any consequences for their actions? Maybe they should, I’m not talking going to the mafia and getting them ‘whacked’ but so long as they aren’t getting away with a wrongful act.

Also I find going for a long peaceful middle of nowhere kind of walk helps relieve the tension and just generally give you some breathing space ^^

Soubresaut's avatar

When I get mad it’s targeted at one person—a laser of anger, I guess. And I usually get stony quiet or a weird, cynical kind of happy so I can usually go out in public if I have to… But I usually so don’t want to.

Do you mind if I give some advice? ”But now I can barely stand another human being. It’s been over a week, and I don’t care if another person ever talks to me again. I just keep getting madder and madder.
It sounds like you’re letting yourself put all your energy into feeding your anger, and that’s not healthy for you. By being angry at people we’re giving them a ton of power over us, which isn’t what we intend. I’m not saying don’t be mad—be mad, please. But remember who you’re mad at, and why. Don’t let it spiral out of proportion. No matter how big what he did was (I don’t know it in the detail you do, but it sounds pretty big) it’s not worth you becoming so frozen/cutoff/imobilized; you’re deserve more than that.
The best way to spite people, I’ve found, is to go on and not let them effect me. I ignore them and continue on without them. Then they get pissed and I feel pretty satisfied…
(Then when my head’s more clear I can figure out if and how I forgive them).

talljasperman's avatar

yes… I have medication now

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Yes. I once found out I was going to be axed from a job by reading the email (I was supposed to) of the person I was filling in for. The person who generated the email forgot I was the one opening the emails all day and sent one informing my boss (who was checking all the same emails by Blackberry) to get all my commissions in order upon his return so they could prepare my last check.

What had been pitched to me as a permanent job was actually a temp job and they were going to tell me there wasn’t enough business to support two people as they had hoped. I locked everything up, left my security pass and drove home, crying in anger. I’d never been “unwanted” by a job and took it very personal even though it was wasn’t to them.

Plone3000's avatar

My brother in law is frickin crazy, If he is mad at anyone he will shout at them in a public setting, parks, restaurants, you name it.

xjustxxclaudiax's avatar

Yea I’ve been through that when my ex broke up with me. She practically exploded on me and said the meanest things to me. I was so hurt and so angry that I couldn’t even respond with a comeback. I just walked away and locked myself in my room for weeks. Didn’t talk to no one, didn’t look at no one. And if anybody tried to get through to me, I’d snap at them…But eventually, I calmed down…and soon realized I wasted so much of MY TIME being angry with her that I missed out on some very important dates with my family. I hate her for everything she said to me, but I hate myself for letting her take advantage of my life and making me miss out on more important things that I will never be able to get back.
......We’re friends now, but different. I guess I lost a lot of respect for her so I treat her more like a stranger than a friend. I don’t think things between us will never even come close to how it used to be…oh well.

Crossroadsgrl's avatar

Yes. Happened this morning…with my ex husband.
Usually lasts around 5–10 minutes now…he sets me up in public.
The good thing is…we’re only around each other for the duration of the game or whatever kid event it is AND I don’t have to go home with him afterwards .

faye's avatar

Yes, but I still had to go to work and be caring to patients, which sometimes almost killed me. But not for a week of not wanting anyone to talk to me, I’m a talker so I’d be furious at the guy but after a couple of days I’d want to dissect what he did with anyone who’d listen.

ucme's avatar

No never, no one wields that power over me. I’m like frickin He-man…......“I have the power!” No sword however, which is unfortunate.

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.
Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther