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Can you remember a time when you surpassed your parents at something they taught you?

Asked by Dutchess_III (46812points) March 22nd, 2011

Or, conversely, when your children started doing something better than you ever did? It is the strangest experience in a parent’s life when you start asking your kids for advice!!

My daddy starting teaching me to shoot pool when I was about 10. Well, from about 14 on, that’s about all I did when I was out, cattin’ around in the evenings. Shot pool and played foosball. I probably averaged 20 games of each a day. In fact, after I was old enough to go to bars, I wouldn’t even go to a bar that didn’t have a pool table. And that’s where you’d find me, shootin pool, not out on the dance floor.

When I was about 19 my dad and I had occasion to shoot some pool for the first time in about four years. I could tell he was ready to resume lessons…he gallantly gave me the break…and I ran six balls before I finally missed. I was workin’ that table, like a dance…when I missed I stood up and leaned back on my cue stick, slightly disappointed at the miss, but satisfied overall with the run. I glanced up at my dad with (what I thought) was my cool, confident, level look, the one I’d shot at people a thousand times. Slight nod of my head to indicate “Your shot,” like I had done a thousand times. My dad was staring at me…..then he said, “Valre Lynn. I have one question. Where have you been spending your time?!
Then he stepped up and I realized…I was better than him…. : ( and : ). Mixed feelings.

Well, I started teaching my son when he was 5. Put him up on a chair. By the age of 17 he could totally kick my butt. I remember the first time he beat me solid. I thought, “This just ain’t right, man!”

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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

I remember “out-drawing” my mom.She’s the one who taught me alot and loved that I liked it as much as I do :)
I couldn’t beat my dad.
I would love to be as good of a shot as he was.I doubt I ever will.:)

12Oaks's avatar

Absolutely. I am a better driver and map reader (I do that professionally as a part of my job, no GPS required). Am also much better at carpentry than he even could have been. Other stuff as well, but them be’s the top 2.

JmacOroni's avatar

I don’t remember a specific “lesson” or “skill,” but something similar.
My dad is extraordinarily smart. He has an amazing brain, truly. My entire life was more or less based on the “fact” that I could ask my father any question and he would have the answer. He always did. He always knew the answer to whatever had piqued my curiosity at that moment.
Until one day he didn’t. Suddenly, my father didn’t have an answer to every question that I could come up with. It was a sobering experience to realise that my father, is indeed, human. :)

Mariah's avatar

My dad was always my go-to guy for help on my math homework. Now I’m giving him calculus refresher lessons!

Dutchess_III's avatar

;) Life is poignantly sweet, isn’t it guys. Realizing your parent are, actually, just human beings.

Cruiser's avatar

I can out run my dad now! Slow poke!

YoBob's avatar

It happened to me fairly recently. (and it’s still a bit painful to admit) My 14 year old son has become more skilled at fencing than I. Of course, I didn’t start until I was in my mid 30s whereas I have been “playing” at fencing drills with him since birth.

To use a technology metaphor, not only does he have hardware that is one generation advanced, he runs at double the clock speed and doesn’t have as much baggage cluttering up his hard drive to get in the way of seek times.

The kid is going to be a monster as long as he keeps training like he means it and avoids any major injury for the next several years

Dutchess_III's avatar

Oh! What prompted this question is the fact that I’m doing a little dry wall work that included mudding and taping. Well, I taught my son everythig he used to know about all that stuff, using a drill gun, drywall, power tools, etc. Somewhere along the way, when I wasn’t looking, that boy just blew me outta da water. He can mud a drywall seam so smoothly it barely needs sanding! (Well, he’s also 6’ 4” and also has these big galumpatous hands with long galumpatous that allows him to span a long drywall knife between his thumb and little finger, then he has the strength to flex the blade so it creates a bow….if I had galumpatous hands and galumpatous fingers I bet I would be as good as him! Not.) Anyway, I called him up for some advice. One of the things he told me is to use that solid tape, not the mesh stuff, and I’m kind of afraid! The mesh is sticky back and the solid isn’t. It’s been years since I used the solid, and I only have vague memories of tape bunching up and falling off and getting myself all wrapped up in tape and mud….maybe if I whine he’ll come rescue me??

@YoBob I have this vision of you hopping up on a two day old baby and poking him with a fencing sword and yelling “TOUCHE!!! Take that!! And THAT!!! Prepare to DU-EL!!!” ” : )

Cruiser's avatar

@Dutchess_III I prefer paper tape over mesh. Never had a seam crack with paper.

YoBob's avatar

@Dutchess_III Actually, that’s not that far removed from the truth.. ;). Of course, I waited until he was old enough to start “defending” himself and used fingers rather than an actual blade…and he loved it.

cockswain's avatar

I became a better piano player than my dad by the time I was 12.

Sunny2's avatar

I think I’m a better cook than my mom was, but I have to give her credit for making it exciting to me in the first place. She’d try all kinds of recipes. She made pizza before it was popular in the U.S. Once we made eggrolls, but didn’t seal them properly and they unrolled as they cooked (but were delicious anyhow). I did more complicated 6 course meals with wine pairings for each course.(I don’t any longer) My daughter specializes in fancy cakes and my son specializes in unusual (for us) foreign meals. We all loved to cook.

Supacase's avatar

I can kick my mom’s ass in Scrabble now and she says I’m a better mother than she was. The one that really bothers her is that I am a better writer.

josrific's avatar

My mom started teaching me piano when I was about 5. When I was 8 she told me that I was getting better than her and needed to go to another teacher. Despite that, mom and I still love sitting at the piano playing duets together.

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

I remember my dad sitting down to help me with maths homework (he was quite skilled in maths when he was at school and university), and having to re-learn everything on the spot. By the time I was 16 and in my final year at school, I no longer asked for his help.

mattbrowne's avatar

Table tennis.

cockswain's avatar

@mattbrowne I’m OK at table tennis, but my cousin’s 6 yr old boy can destroy me in that game. Really freaky. He can hit the ball when it is by his knees.

mattbrowne's avatar

@cockswain – Yep. It can be a lot of fun!

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