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[NSFW] Do women with small breast view them in the same manner as a man with a small penis?

Asked by Hypocrisy_Central (21520 points ) April 3rd, 2011

Often men (not all of them) who do not feel larger (or larger than average) feel less than a man because they believe they should be average sized or bigger; that to have a near child-sized dumbstick is not to be fully a man somehow. Over the years be it personal conversations, readings in magazines are articles on TV news and talks shows it seems many women (NOT ALL, get that?) want to get aftermarket boobs because they feel they are to small; the common saying ”the chest of a teenaged boy”. Another phrase I have heard a lot was “needing to feel more like a woman”, or “more womanly?” Is there a size breakpoint where you go from feeling like a teen girl to a woman i.e. over 34B woman, under 34B still a teen chest not quite a woman? The size of the breast has much less to do with sexual pleasure than having a small penis to a man so would those women who were not blessed with ”melon genes” chest wise still feel less womanly like a man swinging a small bat?

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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

I have never felt like I am anything but all woman. ;)

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

I don’t know, personally, because I’ve always had big boobs.
However, all of the women that I know with smaller chests are quite happy with what they’ve got.
Overall, I think women are prone to fret over their bodies/appearance. There is a lot of pressure from media and society to look a certain way, definitely isn’t exclusive to breast size. Some women are more susceptible to that kind of influence.

jonsblond's avatar

It’s hard to say because I’ve never been a man with a small penis. My boobs were quite smaller before I had children and there were times I wanted them to be a little bit larger. They are now a little bit larger thanks to having children and gaining a few pounds and I must say I miss the little perky ones at times. Boobs are boobs. I’ll always be a woman.

Seelix's avatar

My first instinct was to answer “How the hell are we supposed to know?” There’s no way to know for sure whether the feeling is the same.

The women I’ve talked to who are small-chested don’t have the feeling that they’re not womanly.

The only time I’ve heard of a woman feeling less than womanly when it comes to breasts is if she’s had a mastectomy. Some women get implants after mastectomy to feel like they’re “still women”, but many women don’t bother.

Women have that magic little spot between their legs in order to feel sexual. I wouldn’t imagine that breast size would really affect things much.

faye's avatar

I’ve always been very happy with my little girls. I’ve never heard of a man that didn’t like any kind of breast. Mine are responsive, fed 3 babies and are still perky if I stand up very straight!
I could wear bikinis when my friend with large breasts had to get a onepiece from LA.

TexasDude's avatar

I doubt it.

Think about it for a second:

There are plenty of guys that dig small boobs, myself included.

You don’t often hear of girls who explicitly like small dicks. Unless they are ultra tight or ultra sensitive and can’t handle the bigger ones.

wilma's avatar

I don’t think I’ve ever known a woman, who didn’t feel like a woman because of her small breast size.
As for small “dicks” thanks @Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard. That is not my problem, and none of my business.

chyna's avatar

Nah, they’re just boobs.

faye's avatar

Also, we don’t need the boobs to have good sex.

Frankie's avatar

I love my small boobs and I’ve never felt like less of a woman because of them. There have, of course, been fleeting moments when I’ve wished they were bigger, but ultimately I don’t think I would ever change them. They’re perky and cute and fit my body nicely. And I’ve never had any complaints from any guy I’ve been with. I’m a very feminine person but the size of my boobs doesn’t really have anything to do with that.

tranquilsea's avatar

More than a mouthful is a waste. Or is it more than a handful?

cak's avatar

I think about myself before a double mastectomy. I only had a certain part of the reconstruction done; however, let’s just say I got my wish of little to no boobs. Now my husband has seen me both ways. I used to feel inadequate. I don’t anymore. My sexuality has nothing to do with my breasts.

wundayatta's avatar

I know a woman who is very, very proud of her small breasts. I don’t believe I’ve ever met a man who was proud of his small penis. Or his average penis, for that matter.

ziegler's avatar

I’m a 32A. I feel like I’m still sexy and if a guy doesn’t think so, well, there’s plenty of fish in the sea. To be honest it’s been tough to accept being flat chested. I still wear at least a padded bra and my favorite bra adds 2 cup sizes (Bombshell-VS) So while it’d be nice to have bigger boobs I don’t feel they are necessary.

Talimze's avatar

It’s not really the same thing. The last time I felt insecure about having small boobs was in middle school. However, it is much more visible than a guy with a small penis, which is the root of the problem; a woman with small boobs might worry about appearing less attractive, not about being less of a woman. At least, that’s the way the reality seems to me, and I’m hopelessly out of touch with my demographic (and all others, for that matter), so my perspective should mean little.

Pandora's avatar

I don’t know about feeling less than a woman but I would assume that the ones that go get breast implants and go though all that pain and misery, do so because they don’t feel desirable or sexy. Unless you desire to get a job as a porn star or stripper, I don’t understand there is any medical reason to undergo surgery that will cause you severe pain.
The rest either are happy with it or don’t care and don’t see it as a determining factor of who they are as women, or don’t have the money or feel its worth the pain of the surgery.
I’ve known guys who like large or very small or medium size. So I don’t think women view it quite the same as men.

JLeslie's avatar

I doubt it. And, this would also matter a lot by country. Americans are way more obsessed with breasts than the French or Brazilians. The breasts are just visual, while for men I would guess they worry about the pleasure factor for a woman when they are having sex? Seems like the man might be more prone to worrying about it? Not sure. At the same time, womens breast are the for the world to see unless she really wears clothes that cover her up, while men don’t present their penises (sp.) to the world and everyone every day.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

@ANef_is_Enuf There is a lot of pressure from media and society to look a certain way, definitely isn’t exclusive to breast size. The media (as much I notice it) make a big deal over a woman being at least a certain size (they are vague on the size but it seems to be a size where a woman’s chest enters 20sec before she does.). I can’t recall how many movies and or shows where a woman who was near flat or very shallow was the butt or running butt of jokes.

@Seelix My first instinct was to answer “How the hell are we supposed to kn[sic] My first instinct was to answer “How the hell are we supposed to know?” There’s no way to know for sure whether the feeling is the same. I was thinking more in a universal way, be you female or male you know you want more money most of the time so wealth is not a gender things. So women with smallish chest I was wondered do they feel less than, like men who have smaller bats? Not if they think of their boobs the same exact way a man thinks of his dumbstick.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard There are plenty of guys that dig small boobs, myself included.
You don’t often hear of girls who explicitly like small dicks. Unless they are ultra tight or ultra sensitive and can’t handle the bigger ones. Come to think of it if I went off what is found in the media you do not hear of women who actually like a man with a child-sized dumbstick. And the media plays it up as the bigger the tool the more pleasure you can give the woman and the more likely they will get to “Big ‘O” Land” with you at the helm. Makes you wonder if that is so because of physical limitations or mental or personal preference?

@wundayatta I know a woman who is very, very proud of her small breasts. I don’t believe I’ve ever met a man who was proud of his small penis. Or his average penis, for that matter. As I repeat it does make you wonder………..

@ziegler I still wear at least a padded bra and my favorite bra adds 2 cup sizes (Bombshell-VS) If you feel just as sexy at 32A (which I would find terribly sexy) and there are men out there as many who have posted already and myself that find small and perky sexier and more beautiful than melon sized and floppy why shackle yourself in a bra just for the 2 extra cups? My fiancée is not of a size that she has to wear a bra, she could but there would be no real point to do so, so she doesn’t. I am sure off some of her comments she feels the tug of wishing to be larger, but as @Seelix alludes to, it is not the size of the attic when all the entrainment goes on downstairs. So, if there are many who don’t mind a 32A mound what are the needs for the extra two cup size out of curiosity?

@Talimze However, it is much more visible than a guy with a small penis, which is the root of the problem; a woman with small boobs might worry about appearing less attractive, not about being less of a woman. Could it be a little more than that? Women with an ample rack who just isn’t frilly who would be under a diesel truck or out in the pig pin covered in dirt or oil would be told to “doll up” as to “look less mannish”, as to “look more like a lady”. Also those women who do not use any makeup or very little get suggested they could look more like a woman if they made themselves up. It is an interesting point though……

@Pandora I would assume that the ones that go get breast implants and go though all that pain and misery, do so because they don’t feel desirable or sexy. Unless you desire to get a job as a porn star or stripper, I don’t understand there is any medical reason to undergo surgery that will cause you severe pain. Can a woman who don’t feel like a woman (for whatever reason even if not tit size) feel sexy? And if said reason to not feel sexy is because the chest is not as big as Madison Avenue says a sexy woman’s chest is that would really be the only non-medical reason to spend all that money and go through all of that IMO. Unless you are going to somehow make money off those puppies I can’t see any reason for loading them up with saline.

plethora's avatar

One of the sexiest women I have ever encountered had barely more than nipples, big dark sexy nipples to be sure, but an A cup breast for sure…..but did she ever know how to make them sexy. One trick was talking seductively about how much she loved her little tits.

The only kind of breast that I have ever seen that is unattractive is a fake (enhanced) breast.

rooeytoo's avatar

Outside of Hollywood and within my circle of friends, I know none who have had breast enhancement surgery but I can think of 4 who have had breast reduction surgery. That must tell you something.

plethora's avatar

@rooeytoo I know of way more than that…..I’m thinking at least 20, maybe more, and one mother who told me her 20 year old daughter had already had enhancement. Breast reduction makes sense. Those babies gotta be heavy and affect one’s entire frame and musculature.

ucme's avatar

I wouldn’t have thought so, just a minute i’ll ask the wife….....err, I mean my friends wife…...oh shit!

tedd's avatar

Being a boy who has plenty of experience with women of all “sizes” in that region…. I can tell you I tend to favor smaller. Not that big is bad, but more often than not they just get in the way.

I don’t think it is truly comparable to men and worrying about penis size.

ziegler's avatar

@Hypocrisy_Central Thank you so much for your concern, but considering how young I look based off of my face, wearing bras that make my boobs look bigger makes me look older.
@tedd that makes me feel so great about my boobs.
@plethora wow. very enlightening. Considering I was thinking about getting fakes…not anymore.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

@ziegler @Hypocrisy_Central Thank you so much for your concern, but considering how young I look based off of my face, wearing bras that make my boobs look bigger makes me look older. Believe me you want to stay looking younger as long as you can. If I could go back or at least look that way I would.

@plethora wow. very enlightening. Considering I was thinking about getting fakes…not anymore. That is one of the bigger mysteries about women wanting to get fake boobs, even if they manage to get a surgeon that can make them look more natural than fake while they are standing when laying, especially on the back, they often do not look natural at all. And then there is the tale tale tiny little scar that is usually under the nipple which is better than the scar in the fold as in the old days but still a give away to those in the know. Why gals want or feel they have to so much…go figure?

ziegler's avatar

@Hypocrisy_Central not when I’m 18 and I’ve been told I look 12.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

@ziegler If you could appear to have crows feet, turkey waddle neck and deep laugh lines that would make you look older would that be as equal? Just out of curiosity.

ziegler's avatar

@Hypocrisy_Central I suppose not. However, when I am attracted to a guy and he looks at me and thinks I am 15 or so…you have to understand where I’m coming from. I’ve had people tell me my younger sister looks older than me. I got my daddy’s baby face and get told I don’t look my age all the time.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

@ziegler I get where you are coming from, I have met one or two gals in my past who had the same problem. Just pointing out that a curse today could be a real blessing tomorrow, and boobs are not the only way to a mature look. Just saying…..... But I can see how a guy you are interested might be scared off if he thinks you are not of age or the pain of having to always whip out the DL to prove you are as old as you are, I get that. :-)

plethora's avatar

@ziegler Good for you. Sexy boobs are all about attitude, not about size. And once the snake oil doc wields his/her knife, there is no possibility of good looking boobs. Your clothes might fit better, but your boobs won’t look great to men. We can tell the difference in bed…actually way before bed, even before the clothes come off.

The woman I mentioned was as attractive and as hot as she could be and her boobs were very small.

Leanne1986's avatar

I love my breasts. They are small and pert. However, I know a lot of girls with smaller breasts that don’t like them and wish they were bigger. I’m glad I am not one of these women.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

@Leanne1986 They are small and pert. Beats big floppy watermelons or two chest bowls like artificial jat air liner cones. ;-)

Leanne1986's avatar

@Hypocrisy_Central My thoughts exactly!

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