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How do you know when you're in love?

Asked by BeccaBoo (2715 points ) April 9th, 2011

Is it really possible to be in love forever? How do you know? What do you compare it to?

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marinelife's avatar

Real love is when you want the happiness and success of the other person more than you want it for yourself.

You don’t stay “in love” meaning the first chemical flush of love forever. It steadies into a warm, passionate glow.

tedd's avatar

You just do.

But frankly, sometimes you end up being wrong.

filmfann's avatar

I still feel attachment to every woman I have loved. Love may fade, but it is always there.
I can tell when I love someone, because their happiness is more important to me than my own. When I have fallen, there is a feeling of vulnerablity towards that person.

MilkyWay's avatar

Love is when you are willing to give up everything you’ve ever believed in for a person.
Love is when you will not give your life, but your way of life for the person you love.
Love is when you want the happiness of that other person more than you own, even if that means not being with them.
Love is when you will put yourself in sadness and hurt, and not care because you know the one you love is happy.
If you feel all of this, then you are truly in love.

Qingyi's avatar

love is be loved and love other.
when you find out that you would like to do anything for the person and he/she like it too, it means you are in love.

wundayatta's avatar

You never know if you are in love forever until you are. Which is to say, you die and you are still in love.

There is no way to compare your love to anyone else’s. There is no test for being in love. It is something you decide for yourself. It is a feeling or an intuition.

Poets have written about love for millenniums. There are so many stories. Psychologists have also written about it at length. People will tell you that love is this or love is that. It may or may not be true for you.

What @marinelife said is a good guideline, but by no means the definitive guideline. Love can be the feeling you have when you are around someone or communicating with them. Love can be a desire to do things together. Love can be how you feel when you are near someone.

Love can be expressed in many ways, too. Love has a physical component. It has a relationship component. It has a communication component and a creative component. When you’re in love you might want to be creative with the person—marry them and make new life together and nurture that life.

But when I am in love, the best part for me is that overwhelming desire to be with her and to please her, and to do everything I can for her happiness. I look forward to every contact with her. I can’t wait until the next one. She is always there in the back of my mind. There’s more, of course, but I don’t want to spend days writing this.

So that’s what it’s like for me. It might be quite different for you.

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