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(NSFW) Is it bad for me to do foreplay?

Asked by KilikaMagick (14 points ) May 8th, 2011

Well I have a boyfriend…And we’re a really horny couple. The closest we’ve gotten is where he’s massaged my breasts and played with my nipple but it wasn’t in a place like in a room, we were walking through a park, but it was during our break…I’m not too sure how to explain it….But anyways I’ve been thinking foreplay isn’t really sex….So would it be a bad thing to try out with him? Or mutual masturbation?

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creative1's avatar

How old are you and are you able to handle things when they go futher than that, because foreplay does tend to lead to sex down the line…

FutureMemory's avatar

Go for it.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

Foreplay is never, ever bad. Sex without foreplay, however, is bad.

wundayatta's avatar

Foreplay is a very important part of sex, and it’s fine to try things out. It’s probably better if you move slowly, trying one thing for a while (days) before adding another. Just give it plenty of time. And you don’t have to have intercourse, of course. What you suggested—mutual masturbation, is really a nice thing to do. You can do it each on yourselves, or you can do it to each other, or you can use mouths in addition to fingers. It’s really quite a trip getting someone else to have an orgasm without even touching them.

You know, the teachers at my kids preschool were always telling the kids to “use your words.” My suggestion is that using words isn’t good advice just for preschool kids. It’s also good advice for adults. Talk someone into an orgasm using all kinds of fantasies. It’s a beautiful thing.

jrpowell's avatar

I will go out on a limb here. You are not ready for sex. Wait a few years unless you want to be pregnant in JR high or elementary school.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@johnpowell I dunno, I know some college boys who have that attitude (the one where 20 seconds of crap making out is foreplay, and intercourse is the ‘for her’ portion of the evening).

Vincent_Lloyd's avatar

Well…foreplay isn’t really considered sex even though it may lead to sex…But I would say sure go for it, just be cautious of your actions since it may lead to sex..which you don’t want…But usually for me I would say that the mutual masturbation would be a great idea, oral I think is very good thing to do. Just always keep a reality check in mind. NO PENETRATION!

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

It may help to redefine the term “sex”. If penile-vaginal intercourse is sex, then gays cannot ever have sex. If penetration is needed (but fingers don’t count), then lesbians cannot ever have sex. And if the entire point is to experience euphoria together, why do these definitions make any sense? I’ve had tons of sex in which it was all foreplay/oral sex – I’ve never considered it any less “sex” than intercourse.

ucme's avatar

If I were female, short, affected a German accent & was named Ruth I would feel qualified to answer this question. Considering none of the aforementioned criteria are met, I have no option but to pass.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@ucme Maybe it’s late and I’m not getting a reference, but I think the only one you “need” is female. And really, you can answer as a guy. Do guys not like foreplay?

ucme's avatar

@MyNewtBoobs Well for sure yeah. However in response to the OP’s question “Is it bad for me (personally) to do foreplay? I feel there’s only one option available to me, namely “how the fuck should I know!?!

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@ucme Well, sure. But where do German and Ruth come from?

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@ucme Ooo. now I get it.

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