What are guys really like?

Whoa, it’s going to be impossible to answer this question without painting with a very broad brush. Even on an individual basis, the things that went on in my head from when I was a teen to now are hugely disparate. If you have any really specific questions about the psyche of young men, I can try and answer those.

I can tell you some misconceptions, though.

We are not all out for sex.
We are not all obsessed with sports.

All guys in their teens to 20’s think about sex and beer.

All of them. ~

(~ = I kid)

@Jude
I don’t believe that.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard
It could be anything, anything at all. From any topic.

I would just say that most are too immature and that they’re not’’ all there’‘mentally. Jude is totally right about that. I’ve even asked my uncles and that’s what they said.

@NostalgicChills well, I’ll tell you what I look for in a girl, then. I look for intellect, ferocity, and independence, as well as an adventurous and impulsive spirit.

@emeraldisles
I still don’t believe all guys are like that. Honestly.

Not as foreign as you think we are.

Just like you.

You may think that you have little clue about what guys want, but I want to assure you that guys have even less of a clue about what you want. But there are all different kinds of issues.

Some guys are over-confident, and think they are god’s gift to women and they act like that around women. Entitled. Put out or get out. These guys may be athletes or hunks or are just so damn cute that girls can’t stay away from them. Because they have it easy with girls, they can easily become assholes.

On the other end of the spectrum there are guys who are so afraid of being shot down by a girl that they never ask anyone for a date. These guys might think they are ugly and really have nothing to offer a girl since they don’t look like a hunk. You’ll never notice these guys because they try to look as unnoticeable as possible, as their eyes follow you as you walk down the hall.

One thing that I think a lot of girls overestimate is guys ability to notice their signals. You have to practically beat most guys over the head before they notice you are trying to signal them. So many of us have no clue about the looks you give us, or even that you might be watching us, or if you are, we think it’s a mistake or doesn’t mean anything.

We stammer. Our faces turn red. We think we’re uncool. We are embarrassed when you try to talk to us and we can’t think of anything to say, and everything we do say is really dorky.

Girls are always trying to read guys as if they were girls. We’re not. We’re not nearly as complicated as you think we are. Just think of us as stupid oafs who don’t have a clue about girl language. Everything you think you are saying is going right past our heads.

Of course, it depends on the guy. It depends on what category they are in. Are they smart and observant? Are they pure confidence? Are they the magical disappearing boy? You got to figure that one out by observing the boy. Good luck!

All teen and 20 something guys think about getting gas money so they can pick up their girlfriend and later get down their pants! ~ ;)

Guys are generally less courageous than you want them to be. You think they should be asking for dates, and initiating things . . . but no. You kind of have to make the first move with all but the very most arrogant. An average guy is not going to start things unless you give him the right signals. This is more true for younger guys than older ones, though.
But with guys that I like, internally I’m always singing “Be aggressive, Be-e aggressive.” Lol, they never quite get the message.

@athenasgriffin you have a point. I am terrible at making the first move.

@athenasgriffin If you keep it all inside, how do you expect a guy to get it? Read your mind? The first guy that learns to read a woman’s mind gets the Nobel peace prize and a whole lot of other stuff.

We do not get hints, not subtle, not obvious, not blatantly in our face obvious either. Just tell us unless you desire misinterpretation.

TL:DR

Highly variable, just like us full-grown adult men, and like any female. Some are romantic, some just want sex, some are responsible, some are not….

That leads to misconceptions, and the biggest one is that all guys are the same.

@jerv I challenge you to name a single instance where you are significantly different from me!

:-P