Have you ever loved more than one person at once?

I almost can’t separate sex and love either.

I have loved more than one person at once. In fact, that seems to be my modus operandi. However, just because I love these people doesn’t mean I’m necessarily with them at any given time.

My feelings are pretty ironic, too, because I’m also the most jealous motherfucker to ever walk the earth.

I’ve been in love with two people at once. However, society doesn’t approve and I don’t fight society.

So I chose one, avoided the other.

The end result was zero loves.

I’ve loved more than one person at a time, but I’ve never been in love with more than one. I can easily separate sex and love though, so maybe that’s just me.

I have loved more than one person at once.
But only one of them represented the total maximum representation of my values.
Love is, after all, subject to measure by degree.
It is unlikely that in the measure of love, two people can compete to a tie.
Except your children, but that is not what you are talking about.
So, your question seems to leave out the factor of degree of intensity of love.

I definitely love more than one person at once before. It ended up destructing my relationships with both of them and I had to step away.

No. I had a couple of overlapping ‘flings’ when I was younger, but, can’t say that I have.
Besides, I question if I have ever REALLY loved anyone, including my ex husband. I think I THOUGHT I loved him, but, no…it was more of an insecurity thing, I was very young.

I think the ‘truest’ love I have had is with my daughter and my animals. lol

Yes.

Only mah mama <3

The emotional investment in loving someone is such that I can’t adequately love more than one person at a time. I also can’t bear to hurt one when I choose to be exclusively with another.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard You took the words right out of my mouth. I have felt the same way before. but I find that one of those people is usually more compatible with me than the other…but the ones that I clicked with were chronically unavailable. Sigh.

Yes. Despite my deep love for my husband, my idiotic heart still has more than fond feelings for an old high school love of mine. I doubt those feelings will ever go away, even though I’ve not seen him for years.

yes. I have the capacity to be in love with many people at once. It however causes a huge ball of confusion when the emotional part desires the physical part.
Love should not be aligned or confused with jealousy however. Jealosy is about control, not love.
I don’t think culture demonizes love as inexhaustible. Love to me IS inexhaustible. It is something that can be sustained and built and perpetuated. When you are in love you do exactly that.
As far as communication….it is the most essential part of sustaining what you want or believe in. If you notice, people tend to not say or communicate about things that are not of meaning or value to them. But if it is meaningful, they will fight to the ends of the earth.
So communication is key and if you really truly love a person, you will (AND SHOULD) be open in your communication.

Building on what @blueiiznh, and to supplement my own answer, I’d like to throw in this quote from one of my books I’m writing that sums up how I feel: Love is not a commodity that is bought or sold or depleted with use, but a fountain that is always overflowing and flooding the world around us.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard that is an awesome quote and very visual summation!!!!!

@WillWorkForChocolate That’s exactly what I meant, too. I don’t think you ever totally stop loving someone you’ve loved in the past, even if you’ve completely moved on from them.

When I was younger yes but since I didn’t take time to invest in all the relations equally I ended up leaving all those behind.

But for the sex – love thing .. well If you truly love someone you don’t say it’s sex it’s love making… of course some times you just want a quick one but still I don’t think all sexual interactions are meant to be ” let’s just do it and be over it ”.

I don’t know if it was real love, but I’ve had very strong feelings for two women at a time. I cared deeply for them both, but like you said, our society makes us choose, so we can’t do anything about it. I ended up choosing only because I had to make a decision.

I can separate love and sex but as I’ve gotten older I don’t really care for one without the other. I don’t think I have ever love two people at the same time, in terms of being involved with two people I loved at the same time but I think @augustlan made a good point. And I still love everyone I ever truly loved, unless they really screwed me over, even men I haven’t seen for years. They are in my heart and in my mind, somewhere at least, in some small recess somewhere, but I know they are old loves, they are gone, they are part of my past, not part of my present or my future. I haven’t thrown them out, just because they were done with me or I was done with them, just filed them away, where they belong, under “Resolved” or “Case Closed.”

Sometimes I’ve felt appreciation for two separate individuals who fulfilled different needs for me that I would rather have fulfilled by just one of them.. except neither could possibly offer the other’s features.

@augustlan Exactly. Once I give my love to someone, it’s always there, like a string or something, connecting me to them no matter what happens from there. I had some pretty damned intense feelings for a “boy” that I went to school with, although we never had more than a “friends with benefits” relationship, and those feelings have stayed with me. I was devastated when he left to join the army after high school, and I’ve only bumped into him once since then. I still feel “fluttery in the tummy” when I think about how much I loved him.