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A relationship question for those studying or practicing Buddhism...

Asked by iLove (2344points) June 29th, 2011

I am somewhat new to a consistent Buddhist practice even though I have been interested in Buddhism for years. I found a center really close to my home that I like, and my boyfriend at the time was interested in joining. He had never been interested in Buddhism practices prior.

I found great peace at this place and have greatly enjoyed my practice.

Now that we have broken up, and I am doing the work to remove myself from suffering this loss, he is still attending the center even though we are not speaking. Even though I have changed which side of the shrine room I sit in during meditation, he continues to sit near me.

My questions are: do I use my resistance to his presence as a tool to deepen my practice? Because I find it somewhat distracting that he is there. Do I ask him to relocate, or is that contradictory to the healing I am seeking?

this breakup is particularly challenging for me since we shared such a deep connection; yet he did not want to be in a committed relationship with me by his own choice

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