Tendency to shun very attractive members of opp. sex - is that weird of me?

Looks are not everything and I have found the people who “think” they are hot are pretty self absorbed and it’s all about them. Hard to have a relationship let alone a conversation with a self absorbed person who is constantly looking in the mirror!

What if it’s a girl who’s only dated the really attractive bad boys and she’s sick of it and wants a sweet, stable guy?

I don’t think your shunning is weird but it’s certainly silly.

It’s sort of a reverse bias. Why not try dating some really good looking candidates and see if there is a basis for it?

This may sound facetious but I wonder if the sight-impaired might have an advantage in the sense of not having such concerns or distractions like looks? Presumably they’d judge based on how others sound, their sincerity etc. which seems like cutting to the chase ?

I agree with you. I’ve found that too often too bother with them, really handsome guys and beautiful girls have a self-satisfied air about them that I’d rather not deal with. Obviously there are exceptions, but time is precious and a nice looking person, one whose looks appeal to you, is less likely (IMHO) is a better bet.

I think it depends on age bracket. Younger people who look good often do have a an air of privilege.

People who still look good after 30 are often working at it very hard and do not consider themselves especially attractive.

My experience on match with women in their late forties/early fifties is that the really good looking ones often want a man who is equally attractive, and are much more picky. When I find a highly attractive woman I read their profile carefully; what they write is often enough to realize they are not interested in me, but rather they are so particular that there are few men they can meet.

Besides, a woman who is not “perfect ” is probably a lot more attractive to me any way.

I don’t think it’s uncommon and I do agree with what @marinelife wrote about it being kind of reverse discrimination, I did it for years. What I learned though is the less attractive can be just as big of jerks as the very attractive. There’s no way to get around the legwork of measuring a person up and then taking a risk on them.

Consider that someone like that probably gets that alot. And some of the finest fine-looking will be dying for a conversation that lasts more than a couple sentences and doesn’t involve drooling.

Which you’re doing. So cut that out and think about the conversation.
And collect some jokes, you’ll both relax if you’re laughing.