Social Question

Jude's avatar

Ever have times when you're really social and times when you just don't want to have to talk to people?

Asked by Jude (31980 points ) July 15th, 2011

other than your partner? For the ladies, is it when you’re on your period?

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poisonedantidote's avatar

I can remember 1 time for each event.

From ages 0 to 28 I was very unsociable, I only enjoyed talking to a very select few, and people online.

Now, ages 28 to 28 (the last 4 months) I have been very sociable, mainly because I have started a new job where I work on stage.

KateTheGreat's avatar

I go through phases like that every single week. I love to be alone and not talk to many people at all, but then I turn around and want to be very social.

Definitely not when I’m on my period.

jrpowell's avatar

I usually avoid the Internet on the weekends. I check things like the news and make sure that the servers are running but I avoid interaction. And by Internet I mean contact with people that doesn’t involve alcohol.

Unless I am going to the gay bar or a party I avoid people on the weekend.

Joker94's avatar

Absolutely! It alternates every now and again, I guess. The more time you spend with people, the more you want time to yourself. The more time you have to yourself, the more you want to spend it with other people. It is a vicious cycle..

janbb's avatar

Sure – tonight. It never had anything to do with menarche for me.

SpatzieLover's avatar

All the time :) I can be downright confusing that way. It’s all social or all unsocial with me. There’s very little inbetween. I am always politely anti-social though—like if I saw you on the street, I’d still nod & say “Hi”.

woodcutter's avatar

I don’t like people looking at me when I’m having a pain episode of one kind or another. So I try to stay away from people when it’s like that. Not much into chit chat then.

Coloma's avatar

Of course, the cycles of everything. I’m an extrovert by nature but, I also like a lot of solitude and space. It’s all good.

mazingerz88's avatar

I’m not sure whether I’m just alone most of the time since I can’t find people with the same likes as mine. I do find myself a lot of times in Fluther since three months ago?

Earthgirl's avatar

I am really social and talkative when I am happy and things are going well for me. When I am stressed out I tend to withdraw from people. I don’t want to be a downer and I also just need to cocoon myself. It’s probably a bad habit because if I would reach out more to my friends and talk more I would get out of my funk sooner. Somehow I just can’t seem to help it though. It is a very ingrained thing with me.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Yeah, I have anti social times.

gailcalled's avatar

Several hours every day. Now that I “wear the bottoms of my trousers rolled,” I can indulge myself. When I was younger and had a career and was the wife of the headmaster, boy, did I have to socialize. Nothing like a C squad 9th grade girls’ lacrosse game to test my gift of gab.

dogkittycat's avatar

Yes, if I want to go to a party I’ll socialize if I’m being dragged I want to leave as soon as possible. I eat lunch in the library because I like to read without people grabbing my book asking me what it’s about.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

Both the SO and I are fairly introverted, and he more so. While we both have a capability for being entertaining, at the end of the day, we are exhausted from the effort. As for me, I’ve never noticed any pattern where it waxes and wanes with my menstrual cycle.

El_Cadejo's avatar

I am generally not very social at all. When im drunk I get social :P

tinyfaery's avatar

All the time, but you already know that.

Symbeline's avatar

I’m not a social person at all, and prefer to be alone at pretty much every occasion. While there have been exceptions of course, most of my socialization is very brief, or always reaches a standstill, one that which never reaches any impacting point. When I’m on my period, everyone can fuckin die.

Being a loser lonewolf though, the exceptions I mentioned are, I suppose, some much needed element of balance towards my social disposition, in regards to the idea that we’re pack animals. I’m quite skilled in making an ass of myself when the moon is full. But eh, I just live around people, it’s not like they need to figure in my life in any other way.

Hibernate's avatar

There are times when I do not want to talk to people and I want my space. But this has nothing to do with me having issues with the ones around me. I just want to be alone. I do like to be alone a lot and this because I manage to get by on my own most of the time. [pss : don’t tell this to my family]. There are times when I can be alone even when surrounded by a lot of people [because I focus on what I have to do and I only reply when I am being asked in particular and then I give short answers].

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

@Hibernate That describes exactly how I feel and act.

Hibernate's avatar

Glad to see we’re on the same page here.

augustlan's avatar

I’m firmly in the introvert camp, so I like to be alone a lot. I enjoy socializing while I’m actually doing it, but I’m never overly thrilled by the prospect of doing it, you know? I guess the idea of it makes me anxious or something. And afterward, I need a huge hunk of alone time in order to recover from it. Totally unrelated to my (former) cycle.

Leanne1986's avatar

Absolutely although, not necessarily when I am on my period. I like my alone time regardless of whether I am on or not.

QueenOfNowhere's avatar

all the time.

Jude's avatar

My partner’s co-worker’s son died yesterday. He was 20. When I went to see my partner after work, the intention was to go and have a night on the town. It’s that time of the month for the both of us, plus, our work week was rough, then she gets the news of his passing. Whilst at dinner, we both decided that we wanted to go home and cuddle on the couch. I said to her, ‘we don’t even have to talk, just be together’. We also decided for the rest of the weekend that we want avoid people. Just not feelin’ it.

It am pretty sure that it is hormones, along with mental and physical exhaustion.

Jude's avatar

For reason, his death has hit us both pretty hard. A young father who died of cancer.

augustlan's avatar

@Jude News like that certainly does have that effect. Have a nice, quiet, cuddly weekend. <3

stardust's avatar

@Jude That’s hard, sorry to hear it.

I feel like that pretty often as I like/need a lot of time to myself. It has nothing to do with others. I just find constant interaction draining and I like to recharge.

wundayatta's avatar

I need people. I need to be loved. When I’m not feeling like anyone likes me, I get desperate and I need to talk to someone and I am crazy mad for someone to love me.

However when I feel loved, I can be alone. I know there is someone out there who will come to me eventually. I feel connected even though we are not together.

A group of friends get together each Friday night after going dancing. We hang out at a round table in a restaurant nearby. Sometimes there are only four of us and sometimes ten. We always make room for all. The thing is that at a certain size, the group becomes too big for me to talk. I just can’t compete for air time. Many times, they are talking about things I know little about, too.

So I tend to sit back and listen, unless I’m bored, in which case I might try to strike up a conversation with a neighbor. I guess I’m only social if there are things that I’m interested in going on. Otherwise, I can become kind of on my own, even though I am around a lot of people. Togetherness and separateness are matters of my own mind and have nothing to do with being around other people, per se.

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