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(NSFW) What happens during a lap dance?

Asked by evry1luvzaazngrl (268 points ) July 31st, 2011

I want to know what happens when a man is given a lap dance. I had a really weird moment the other night. This guy and I finally made things official and we both had to go to a bachelor and bachelorette party because our friends were getting married.

We celebrated in Las Vegas spending time together and then realized we were both late for the parties so then we went our separate ways.

I ended up getting a lap dance at a male strip club. It’s not as bad as I thought it’d be. There’s rules…they can’t really grope you in personal areas, you can’t touch their privates, they don’t show you their privates, and when they dance on you there’s no groin to groin contact but I mean they kinda grind on your leg lol.It was really weird…

Anyways, my new boyfriend ended up being super drunk that night and passed out. His friends said he was passed out and some stripper was on him for a long time giving him a lap dance… I was wondering if strippers put their breasts on a man’s face or what?

I’m not really angry because we didn’t discuss this before we made things official. But in the future I don’t think I’d like him getting lap dances and I won’t get one either. Is that wrong for him to ask to not get a lap dance if he goes to another friend’s bachelor party?

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FutureMemory's avatar

Does a stripper’s bare breasts touch a man’s face during a lap dance?

During a good one, yes.

Zaku's avatar

I’ve never seen one other than a dramatization on film. However, it would be constructive and not wrong for you to notice your feelings about it and discuss them and make a suggestion or request for an agreement with your boyfriend about it.

chyna's avatar

I’ve never seen one, but I don’t know how it could be avoided. I would just like to point out that he was “passed out at the time” so he didn’t actually get to enjoy it. I do wonder why the stripper would continue dancing on a passed out customer as there would be no chance of getting a tip from him.

evry1luvzaazngrl's avatar

They had a bachelor party so people paid for his lap dance. Same with me…the girls paid for my lap dance and I didn’t know I was getting one. He was on the verge of passing out and he said he didn’t remember anything that night. There was pictures of him on Facebook hugging the toilet and I came home to him with a “mike tyson” tattooo on his face and he had a terrible hang over. I wanted to ask questions but he said he honestly didn’t remember much.

But I can’t help but feel terrible that we made things official and then went off to strip clubs? Weird right? I don’t really care if he goes to the strip club with his guys or maybe even gets a dance but booobs in the face wtf, what happened to no touching?

josie's avatar

Don’t know. Never saw the need to pay for a lap dance in a club.
However, the ones that were free, the answer is yes.

El_Cadejo's avatar

I cant understand what the huge jump is between looking at titties 3 inches from your face and them actually touching your face. How is it that once nipple touches cheek something is suddenly wrong that wasnt before?

evry1luvzaazngrl's avatar

Umm..the same as just looking at someone’s ass and the difference between touching it.. wtf

Blackberry's avatar

Yeah, because the boob actually touching his face is the worst that could happen lol…...

JLeslie's avatar

You’re worried about a naked breast in his face? The whole thing is yuck in my opinion, but if my husband is getting a lap dance, I would not be worried about a naked breast, I wouldn’t even think of that, so I find it interesting. I’ve been to a strip club once before and I don’t even remember if the girls giving lap dances were topless? I guess they were?

Male strippers gross me out. I am pissed when one is at a party. He better not come near me.

plethora's avatar

Just to be sure I understand, what did the two of you make official?

As for the lap dance and touching boobs. Absolutely anything can happen in a dark club with naked women dancing around close to you. Men do not go there to drink. They go to look and touch, if they’re lucky.

If you want to set boundaries for each other, would be best to start with not going in the door. Once he’s in, all bets are off. You might also want to have a chat about getting dead drunk and passing out. That will cause you more problems than touching a bare titty

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SpatzieLover's avatar

The two of you made it official. Now you’re concerned that a bare breast may have touched his face at a bachelor party?!

If you’re officially going out now, why not open up the communication lines and let him know you’d appreciate him not passing out at the next bachelor party he goes to…or make strip clubs a no-go for your relationship?

JLeslie's avatar

@evry1luvzaazngrl Made official? Does that mean you got engaged? Or, that you had sex? Breast in face is the same as touching her breast? Is her breast touching his face? I don’t get what you wrote.

SpatzieLover's avatar

@JLeslie She says “My New Boyfriend…” So I’m guessing they’ve just begun dating exclusively.

SpatzieLover's avatar

@evry1luvzaazngrl You said wtf, what happened to no touching? Guy’s aren’t supposed to touch, grope or grab the ladies…the ladies definitely touch the man when giving a lap dance.

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JLeslie's avatar

Yeah, @SpatzieLover is right, no touching in those clubs, unless this was an extra special club? The rules are to protect the girls.

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Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

I’m gonna say not usually.

I do usually have my hands on their ass through most of it and occasionally spank, and the place my friends drag me to is pretty tame.

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trickface's avatar

In England, yes they push everything other than arse and vag all over your face and body without you needing to move a muscle.

Both should stop going to strip clubs if you are “official”.

msbcd's avatar

Definitely stop going to Strip clubs. That’s my 2-cents worth :P

Sunny2's avatar

Fluther is really educational. I always wondered about lap dancing. It sounds much tamer than my imagination made it.

Blackberry's avatar

@Sunny2 Lapdances are really glorified. They are actually a waste of money and sometimes the women aren’t worth even looking at lol.

El_Cadejo's avatar

@Blackberry strip clubs in general are a waste of money imo. Its like paying for blue balls. Wonderful, just what i wanted….

Blackberry's avatar

@uberbatman Yeah definitely, that’s what I meant.

evry1luvzaazngrl's avatar

What do you mean “stop going”??? It’s not like we go all the time, it was my very first time and it was for a bachelorette party. Before we made things official all I know is that that was his 2nd time and his first time was for another bachelor party.

JLeslie's avatar

People are saying if it bothers you, you both can agree not to go to strip clubs if it comes up again. If you want. No one is saying you go all the time.

Tay122's avatar

And your worried about her boob touching his face?..Theres other..Areas.. to be touched you know….

evry1luvzaazngrl's avatar

Well I know for sure that places don’t let you touch their crotch…... I just wanted to know what goes on with a lap dance. the details

JLeslie's avatar

@evry1luvzaazngrl Maybe go to a strip club and you can see it with your own eyes.

lemming's avatar

I hope not…heavens (..hell?) knows who or what touched those boobs!!

mrrich724's avatar

It was a bachelor party in Vegas… Do you really want to be the G/F who doesn’t let your man experience things like that in life…. how can a trip to vegas and a bachelor party be complete without it…

If it is something that you just can not deal with, talk with him. See how he feels about the experience. If it’s what he likes to do, break it off, b/c do you really want to make something like that long term? Either he’s gonna keep doing it and upset you, and you will go through this over and over, or he did it (as you’ve mentioned already) as a rare occassion b/c he was in vegas at a bachelor party in which case you don’t have to worry!

It’s just tits… Try and think about why we even differentiate between men and womens’ chests anyway. Why can a man walk around shirtless and it’s ok, and a women does the same thing and it’s a HUGE DEAL?! No biggie :)

Not everything needs to be a discussion . . . save the “discussions” for the things that matter… a wild night BECAUSE you were in Vegas at a bachelor party IMO is not worth “a discussion.” Especially when a relationship is one day old.

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