How to nicely tell someone they're being a royal pain in the you know what?

This is between your BF and this person.

I appreciate your annoyance but cannot help but wonder if you perhaps do not feel a bit jealous by this other person.

Be generous with your heart- if your friend likes this person accept them. Be a bigger person and do not let the calls bother you. In life there are no promises, no guarantees and rarely is there a second chance. Perhaps this person is another best friend waiting in the wings.Give them a chance.

There is no such thing. There is never any way to tell anyone they are at fault. Perhaps you could find some way to suggest a more effective way to approach the issue.

I use to have this friend that came to visit me, when I was about 15 years old and living with my parents. This friend came at the most unopportune time and could never take a hint that I had business to take care of or my parents were about to serve dinner.

Oh, also, he had the worlds worst body odor on the planet. After about three months of his torture, I finally bought a bar of deodorant soap and a spray can of deodorant. I left both on the windshield wipers of his car.

He got the message….....well, sorta.

Instead of taking more showers and spraying deodorant, he opened a bottle of cologne. The combination of BO and that rotten cologne almost made me sick.

He joined the Navy and I never did see much of him after this.

Your bf needs to be a man and have a face to face talk with this person.

This is between the friend and the boyfriend. Boyfriend needs to grow a spine and have a talk with this friend if he wants it to end. And the friend probably doesn’t want to be annoying the crap out of your boyfriend, so he’d probably appreciate the open and honest communication and boundary setting.

I agree with @NightStalker. If the friend is calling your boyfriend, it is his responsibility to deal with it.

If the friend has been in the boyfriend’s life longer than you have, maybe the dynamics have shifted, and the guy just hasn’t picked up on it yet. It is up to the boyfriend to set the new parameters. It could be as simple as letting him know that he is unable to talk right now, but will call him back later at an agreed upon time.

Ask your bf if he could practice the following:

“Oh, hey X, I’m with @AshlynM right now so let me call you later? Thanks.” Hang up.

My bf did this a lot when we were first dating since his party buddies would call at all hours of the day and night. He stopped answering the calls at night. He started putting the phone on vibrate at night. He started telling the guys not only when he was with me but where we were so they’d know it was inconvenient. “Oh hi X, Bee & I are up in the mountains and going to be here for the weekend so I’ll catch up with later in the week. I’ve got the phone on only in case the kids need to call”