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Jude's avatar

What can your partner do to help you relax?

Asked by Jude (31971 points ) September 19th, 2011

(Not sex)

Play with my hair, and I’ll fall into a semicoma.

Name one thing.

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rebbel's avatar

Yeah, exactly how you wrote it: she can help me relax by not wanting sex for once :-)
Groom my beard is very relaxing to me too.

wundayatta's avatar

Let me go to sleep and never wake up. (that’s a metaphor)

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Pop my face pimples.

gravity's avatar

“spider fingers” on my back

janbb's avatar

Talk me through my anxieties about a situation.

zenvelo's avatar

Hugs and kisses, rub my shoulders.

SpatzieLover's avatar

I prefer to relax on my own with alone time.

EDIT: My husband prefers to have me around for him to be able to relax or work through his anxieties.

blueiiznh's avatar

drawn you a warm bubble bath to slip into

Ayesha's avatar

Neck massages, kisses on the cheeks and neck, running his fingers through my hair.
Edit: I now noticed you wrote name ‘one’ thing, so neck massages.

marinelife's avatar

Massage.
Just hold you.
Sing to you.

AshlynM's avatar

Cuddling. Neck massage, holding my hand.

tinyfaery's avatar

She feeds me something special. Unfortunately, I associate food with love.

thesparrow's avatar

Just kind of leave me alone to do my own thing

Ellis1919's avatar

Since backrub and playing with my hair are taken, I’m going to go with just talking. I have trouble relaxing enough to fall asleep but sometimes just the sound of my partners voice is enough. When he’s not home with me, sometimes I’ll call him right before bed and I find that I am able to get to sleep faster.

Hibernate's avatar

Massage.

cookieman's avatar

Let me have a day alone with no responsibilities.

happens maybe twice a year

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Give me a glass of wine and a back/neck massage. <snap> I’m out.

SpatzieLover's avatar

@cprevite I’m with you! I’d be happy with an hour here and there. As it is I’m lucky to get 5mins.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Rub my feet with lotion. Snore time!

creative1's avatar

Pour us glasses of merlot and just hold me while having the wine…. kissing here and there as well

Brian1946's avatar

Seeing my wife asleep relaxes me.

YARNLADY's avatar

Act like he is really listening to my issues, and then offer suggestions.

cookieman's avatar

@SpatzieLover: Yes. I agree.

@Brian1946: I also love that. Rhythmic snoring FTW.

@YARNLADY: “Act like…” Lol; I lurve that you’re shooting low. Not really listen, just “act” like it. :^)

Jude's avatar

Who wants to play with my hair? I’m having a shitty day.

zensky's avatar

Stop Eating Xylophones.

thesparrow's avatar

@creative1 Why do guys always see that as an immediate invitation to sex? Can’t they realize we wouldn’t mind having the sex after about half an hour of such activity? Like PLEASE.

Scooby's avatar

Go get me some beers, a pizza & a DVD movie, that’d sort me out :-) oh & tickle my beard.

thesparrow's avatar

@Scooby Ya, I agree.. same here. Except for tickle the beard (as I don’t have one).

creative1's avatar

@thesparrow I have no idea it would be wonderful to have them relax then making love can be so much more amazing.

Scooby's avatar

@thesparrow…. Have another slice of pizza instead :-/

thesparrow's avatar

@Scooby Ya, I’m hungry now.

thesparrow's avatar

@creative1 Meh, when I see him taking the handcuffs out I can already see it being a good time, cuddles or no cuddles.

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