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How often each day do you greet/acknowledge the members of your household?

Asked by FutureMemory (24753points) September 27th, 2011

Obviously it’s customary to say “Good morning” when you first run into the others of your household each day. Also, when you come home from work or school it’s generally common to say “Hi” again to those you live with. Beyond that though, how often do you greet your housemates?

The reason I ask is my father will make a point of saying “Hi” every single time we cross paths – even if it’s only been 15 minutes since we last interacted. At the end of the average day he has greeted me sometimes upwards of twenty times, and I find it incredibly creepy.

I want to make it clear that the greetings are not the extent of our communication. If we talk for an hour straight, and then I leave his room, he will still say “Hi” the next time he comes out – even if it’s only a few minutes later.

How often do you say “Hi” to those you live with?

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picante's avatar

Only the initial “good morning” greeting and then upon seeing them after having spent hours apart. Your father’s behavior reminds me of the etiquette in the hallways of my highschool a bajillion years ago. You gotta say “Hi” to everyone each time you see them ;-)

rebbel's avatar

1. When we wake.
2. After returning from groceries/errands, meetings, etc.
3. When I return from work.
5. Every now and then when I feel like it.

AmWiser's avatar

LOL! That’s funny and I’m getting a visual. Some things become a habit and are not easily broken. Like cracking your knuckles.

And now that you mentioned it, I would say we greet each other maybe 2–3 times a day if we have been in separate rooms for awhile or when one of us goes out out of the house for a period of time.

Blackberry's avatar

I say “Whatsup” or “How’s it goin’?” morning, noon, and night (well, at night I say, “cya”).

FutureMemory's avatar

I’ve started asking him to not do it so much, but it just doesn’t sink in. I feel like a jerk sometimes, like I should let it go…but, he is forcing an action on my part (acknowledgement of his greeting) which feels really unnatural to me.

Blackberry's avatar

@FutureMemory I don’t like when people do that, which is why I refrain from saying things like “Good morning!”, all happily and shit lol.

AmWiser's avatar

But @Blackberry it’s his father. He can’t just ignore him.

FutureMemory's avatar

He just did it again.

Blackberry's avatar

Oops, I missed that detail.

Ela's avatar

All the time off and on throughout the day. If I walk into the room after having been in another for awhile, my kids will often say hi to me and I to them. My youngest gets on a kick every once in awhile where he will tell me “Happy Birthday” or “Mom, guess what? Happy Birthday.” every time he sees me (even though my birthday is months away). I gets annoying as hell some days LOL But he’s just a kid so I tell him “Thanks!” and some times say “Alright!!! Where’s my pressies and cake?! I LOVE CAKE!!!”

Blueroses's avatar

Every time I leave and reenter a room, my dogs greet me as if they hadn’t seen me in a month. they may just be hoping I’m carrying cookies.
That doesn’t irritate me, so maybe you should try to picture your dad as a Great Dane?
or hand him a cookie

Ela's avatar

LOL ^ ^ ^ unless he starts marking the furniture… then you may want to come up with a new plan ; )

edited in I just walked into the other room and got told “Happy mommy day!”
I kid you not LOL

FutureMemory's avatar

Hand him a cookie…I like that.

Ela's avatar

I don’t know how old you are, but maybe’s it’s just your dad’s way to stay connected to you. He may be becoming more adamant about for the mere fact that you are becoming increasingly unresponsive and maybe somewhat irritated by it. (I’m not saying he’s doing it to irritate you, though).
Find a way to acknowledge him (such as a cookie lol) that works for you and maybe it will diminish some?

omg… mine just yelled hi mommy! from the other room LOL I should have never came here
haha

Bellatrix's avatar

Thinking about it… and I haven’t before your post @FutureMemory, I think we do something similar to you and your dad.

janbb's avatar

My husband often doesn’t greet me when he or I come in for the night which kind of annoys me.

Ela's avatar

edited out cuz it wasn’t very nice : (

KateTheGreat's avatar

I say “Good morning” to my cat. That’s about it.

Paradox1's avatar

Since I live at home with my parents for the last 6 months… a couple to 5 times a day?

ucme's avatar

Whenever it’s pertenent to do so, after a reasonable break in seeing them.

Ayesha's avatar

In the morning when I wake up and when I come back from classes.
“Hi” or “Hello” in Urdu is “Asalamualaikum”.
That makes two times a day. I think that’s enough.

FutureMemory's avatar

Thanks everyone for the responses. I ended up reading some of them to my father. He viewed it as a contest, “That’s 1 for you, none for me so far!”, etc. What a nut, haha.

@EnchantingEla My father is in his 50’s, I am in my 30’s. I’m his caregiver, so we’re around each other all day long as it is.

GabrielsLamb's avatar

When necessary. I mean we don’t call one another out of other rooms just to say hi. *Well, actually sometimes I do that, but I’m the mom! Most days we leave one another alone. This is a typical nuclear family, fallout, holding prospective corners and touching base occasionaly for the illusion of safety kind of house.

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