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Are you attracted to train wrecks?

Asked by wundayatta (58377 points ) September 27th, 2011

It seems to me that controversy is a kind of train wreck, socially speaking. Honest now. Do you run to controversial questions or steer away from them?

If you like them, what do you get out of them? Do you participate or just watch? If you participate, do you like swinging haymakers or do you try to pour oil on troubled waters?

What’s your role? Are you a bad guy? A good guy? A peacemaker? Something else? Depends? If so, what does it depend on?

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mazingerz88's avatar

No. But if decided to wade in, it would be more likely to calm the turbulent water down.

SpatzieLover's avatar

Things are perceived by each individual differently. I am attracted to calm and peace.
I attempt to create what I wish to see in the world as best I can.

Rarebear's avatar

This question isn’t controversial enough for me to answer.

GracieT's avatar

I love controversy, but I have to admit that I talk back to some answers. That’s why I love Fluther- it gives me a chance to examine different ways to interpret some issues. I get to think about why some people disagree with me and what they believe.

AmWiser's avatar

No. I definitely steer away from them (I think???). I like for there to be peace in the valley sea. Those with controversy don’t listen anyway.

Blackberry's avatar

I like controversy the most because it deals with the bigger questions. The ones I think matter more.

I’m there to throw my input in, and respond to anything that I feel I want to challenge.

janbb's avatar

I like to watch.

wonderingwhy's avatar

Are you attracted to train wrecks?
Only the ones with fatalities… or particularly curious causes.

It seems to me that controversy is a kind of train wreck, socially speaking.
Sort of agree, but I’d limit it to only when it devolves into shouting match or is so unbelievably ill-though it makes it hard to fathom.

Do you run to controversial questions or steer away from them?
The former but only if I’ve something to say.

If you like them, what do you get out of them?
What can I say, I love a good argument.

Do you participate or just watch?
If I’m interested enough to watch, I have a hard time sitting on the sidelines.

If you participate, do you like swinging haymakers or do you try to pour oil on troubled waters? What’s your role? Are you a bad guy? A good guy? A peacemaker? Something else? Depends? If so, what does it depend on?
It really just depends on my mood. If I’ve got a strong opinion and feel like expressing/defending it I’m all in. But I like to keep things above board so I can actually try and understand where the other person is coming from and why they hold the position they do – otherwise what’s the point; personal attacks, bickering, circular arguments, etc. don’t hold much for me.

picante's avatar

I like to watch the cage matches on Fluther. I don’t have the energy, the typing skills or the desire to participate. But I’m always intrigued by what I see here.

Coloma's avatar

Mostly I stay out of the fray. I too value peace and serenity, and don’t care for egoic debate.
I am however, VERY passionate about comporting oneself with honesty and integrity and have, on a few occasions, waded into the brackish undertow only to end up with a mouthful of swill. lol

janbb's avatar

Do you end every statement with “lol”? Is it all really that funny?

Coloma's avatar

@janbb

Yes, I like to make silly analogies that make ME laugh, at myself.

HungryGuy's avatar

I’m a good guy. I try to play peacekeeper. I don’t like flame wars, but if someone is being snotty and provokes one with me, I’m not one to back down from a verbal fight either…

Supacase's avatar

I watch from a distance, but I try to get close enough to hear everything. Basically, I’m nosy.

GabrielsLamb's avatar

Yeah, Pretty much. I’m a fixer… Unfortunately. And I get left like the Doctor on the scene who is afraid of helping because their own license is on the line when things go horribly wrong. *As things tend to do no matter what.

GabrielsLamb's avatar

@Supacase Don’t forget smart… You’re smart. POINTS!

GabrielsLamb's avatar

@HungryGuy Good for you… Never back down.

Symbeline's avatar

I like to observe, but rarely do I participate. You can learn a lot from a ’‘train wreck’’, as much about the issue being derailed as well as the people in the train.
Now I’m not saying I’ve see it all; I may always be surprised. Often am. But generally, the stuff you’re talking about often has its nature, and I learn to stay the hell out the way. Sometimes I almost come to say something, but think better of it. I admit, it’s mostly for my own good than anything else, but beyond that, the redundancy of controversy seems pointless.
I mean, take violence in video games for example. I can voice my opinion all I want and try to either defend or criminalize video games, but I don’t think someone like me can do much about it unless I take some serious actions.
Not saying Mr. Anyone can’t do dick; they often do. But personally, I don’t believe my soapbox is big enough. But I’m straying from the point here. Just an observer. Hopefully, I keep stuff in mind, if I ever become something more than an observer.

laineybug's avatar

I like to observe, and then participate when someone says something I thing is wrong, narrow-minded, or anything like that. Basically, as some of my friends would say, I back sass. With respect of course.

woodcutter's avatar

I like to play devils advocate even if I don’t really believe much of what I put into it. Somebody has to do it sometimes.

Pandora's avatar

I think it really depends on my mood. Some days I really just don’t feel like dealing with controversy and others I can’t help it and I guess I just might need to focus on something else for a while.
Most of the time I try to stay neutral but again, at times my feelings will step in on the matter.

Bluefreedom's avatar

I was in my first marriage. My first wife eventually turned out to be a gargantuan train wreck of epic proportions.

augustlan's avatar

Aside from the fact that I think I learn a lot from observing the train wrecks, it’s also pretty much my job to wade in where angels fear to tread. Most of the time, I’m a peace keeper, because that’s my role.

Sometimes though, someone else has to be the mod because I’ve got something to say.

ucme's avatar

No i’m repelled, way too positive to hang around any bullshit.

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