Am I doing something wrong? (gay dating question)

So there is no way I can write this without offending someone. I think…

I am a 27 year old gay male. I finished my bachelor’s degree at 21, and have been in my field for 9 years. (since I was 18, I have been doing IT work) I am very good at what I do… and I have been ahead of the curve salary wise for years. With each job comes increased responsibilities. No matter what I obtain… I feel like I am not doing enough to be my best. I want to be the absolute best human being I can be.

I would never judge anyone for being in any other career, as long as it was what they love to do. If you are an artist, love what you do, and make 30 cents a day…. I have a lot of respect for you.

I never let work go outside of 40 hours a week. If I have to work late one night, I go in late the next day. I never think of work outside of work.

The thing that I am having a problem with is the other gay guys I meet.

I have no problem with waiters, it is just an example job.

No one seems to be as career minded as I am. They are a waiter, and are ok with that not because they love it, but because it is good enough for right now.

That does not compute with me. I was never a waiter, but I worked other minimum wage jobs, and I hated them all. I busted my ass to work 50 hours a week while going to school for 20 hours a week to get my bachelor degree in 3 years so I could get a decent job. Every time I had went right into my schooling.

People who don’t want to do that because it is too hard, does not compute with me.

Now I understand that college isn’t for everyone. But why would you do something you hate? If you are a waiter and you hate it, and every day you apply to other jobs or at least look at other jobs then I have no problem with you or how you lead your life.

I have problems with people who bitch about how much their life sucks, and do nothing to fix it… ever.

I basically am asking how to meet other gay young professionals that are not taken. :)

Does this make sense or am I just rambling? I am annoyed at the general lack of initiative from the gay community. I have no problem with any specific job… I have a problem with someone doing something they don’t love… for so long… without at least trying to better themselves.