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carinstander's avatar

How do I become someones muse?

Asked by carinstander (6 points ) October 5th, 2011

I met somebody that I really like and want to know what I can d to become his ultimate inspiration?

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gailcalled's avatar

I don’t think is it a job you audition for. The artist gets to choose.

Prosb's avatar

It’s difficult to become someone’s muse on purpose. It’s supposed to be something they see in your genuine self to inspire them. Faking whatever they might looking for would defeat the point. I have been told by a friend of mine, who has said he has several muses, that I am one of them. While this came as a surprise, and it was a compliment in my eyes, I wasn’t looking to become his muse. Hang out with him a lot, and express yourself. If he bites, he bites.

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

Make an educated guess at to what they secretly wish for themselves to be more like.

Then be that.

wundayatta's avatar

No can do. If he falls in love with you, you have every chance of being his muse. But you can’t force him to fall in love with you. You don’t say what art form he pursues, but whatever it is, if you find yourself as the subject matter, you can be sure you are his muse.

I suppose you could fall in love with him. That may or may not increase the chances that he’ll fall in love with you.

Let me ask you this: are you prepared for the responsibility of being a muse? Do you really want him to fall in love with you? Are you prepared for the intense gaze of an artist? He will obsess, and you must respond positively or you will destroy him. In fact, you must be every bit as intense about him as he is about you.

Frankly, if you can ask this question, I’m afraid I don’t think it is likely you could become his muse. It’s like putting the cart before the horse.

Kardamom's avatar

It doesn’t work that way. Artists draw inspiration from odd places, and sometimes odd people, and the artists themselves never know who or what or when inspiration will hit.

You can be the funniest, prettiest, nicest most interesting or exciting person on earth and those qualities will not make you become a muse. You can pretty easily make a guy feel lust for you, but being a muse is a much more elusive and spiritual state of being and is not related to how sexy or attractive you are to the artist. And each artist has a completely different idea of what inspires him/her. Hot girls are a dime a dozen, muses are one in a billion.

Just ask Andrew Wyeth about Helga

janbb's avatar

Here’s some good advice that might help.

carinstander's avatar

Thank you all for great answers!

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

LOL, listen…the muse concept is overly dramatic and is something that is rather dubious…some people like their muses, others despise them…their obsession is perhaps just that..I think we’ve romanticized the notion…besides, if you’re someone’s muse, they’ll have others if they’re ever hungry for one.

GabrielsLamb's avatar

I beg to differ… I think most muses tend to pick their bemused… Gaia and Dali for one, she was a pistol and a half! She seldom took no for an answer and also in the case of Georgie Sand and Chopin, muses tend to be the stronger one in the relationship and sometimes *And I hate to say this… But their bad behavior is what inspired the most beautiful art.

GabrielsLamb's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir What I feel it is more a matter of now is history as opposed to present day artistic integrity and romanticism. Art is unfortunately commercial… George Washington is everyone’s muse now.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@GabrielsLamb There is no such thing as history in that there is no ‘that history’ and ‘now’, we’re making history as per usual…

6rant6's avatar

@carinstander I’m curious what you think it would look like if you were this guy’s “Ultimate inspiration.”

Do you think his art would reflect you, your stories, your appearance? Do you think that without you he would then be unable to create? Do you expect him to mention you in the acknowledgements or program notes?

carinstander's avatar

@6rant6 Ultimate friendship, trust, respect and love. Be able to talk about anything, discuss anything, I do not want recognition, the relationship in itself would be recognition enough. His art did reflect me once. It felt great :-)

GabrielsLamb's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I got chya, I don’t really believe in time either.

Kardamom's avatar

@carinstander What you just described is not a muse. You’ve described a great girlfriend or wife or life partner. They’re very different things (although is some super rare instances, they can be the same person, but their value is quite different).

gailcalled's avatar

George Washington is “everyone’s muse now”? Really. I hadn’t noticed.

janbb's avatar

@gailcalled Highly amusing.

carinstander's avatar

@Kardamom I figured that if all those things are in place, then being somebody’s inspiration won’t be so difficult, then you should be connected on a level that he will be able to tap inspiration effortlessly and there should theoretically be little frustration or none at all, but now I’m being overly optimistic… we’re only human after all.

GabrielsLamb's avatar

@gailcalled Okay Okay, I’ll be more careful with the E word… Sorry Gali!

Kardamom's avatar

@carinstander I still think you are confusing what the meaning of muse actually is. Yes, a muse does inspire, but inspiration often does not come easy, and often does not come from a kind, gentle place. I’ve never heard of anyone tapping inspiration effortlessly. Some times it comes with no warning, other times it comes and goes randomly, sometimes people try to force it violently, and other times it comes only once in a lifetime. The muse herself (or in some cases himself) doesn’t play much of a part, except for randomly being the person who became the muse. Muses are recognized they aren’t made, nor can one make oneself into a muse.

Other creative people don’t even have muses at all, because their creativity stems from something else. People can play into it, but most creative people’s inspiration comes from all over the map.

Having a loving supportive spouse is helpful and wonderful, but the creativity usually doesn’t spring from that relationship per se. A helpful, calm, supportive spouse can help to keep a creative person from “running off the rails.” It’s also not true that all or even most creative people are out of control hyper-emotional people.

So even if you are the best friend and lover of a particular creative person, and you share everything, and you are mentally connected, it doesn’t mean that you will ever be his muse, or that he even needs a muse. Those concepts are simply two different things.

I hope that you would strive to be someone’s best life partner, the best that you can be rather than to strive to be a muse. A good life partner is loved and respected and cherished for being a good partner and a good person, a muse is only good for being inspirational for as long as the creative person finds her to be an inspiration. It could be for a day, a year or a lifetime, but that muse doesn’t need to be a good person, or a thoughtful person, or a kind person, or even a nice person to be a muse. Being a muse is a completely random state of being and not something you can choose to be or work hard at to maintain. And it’s extremely rare.

Being a good wife, or life partner, on the other hand is definitely something that you can be good at, and strive to be better at and that ultimately makes the creative spouse a better person. Might not make him a better artist, but it does make him a better person.

GabrielsLamb's avatar

You do know you get paid in Gum… Right?

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