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I need step-by-step directions to making Thanksgiving dinner (preferably making most of it the day before?)

Asked by Dog (25152points) October 8th, 2011

I will be the first to admit that I am cooking-challenged. However I just got a new oven, and have now decided to blame that old oven on all my past failures. :)

So- I have decided to host the big family Thanksgiving and invite everyone because I am confident that this new Oven will see me through.

What I really need though is a SCHEDULE of what to do when and how to do it so that I can be as organized as possible. (I am caring for my four children and ill mother so I HAVE to be extremely organized!)

I would really especially LOVE to be able to prepare as much as possible the day before T-day so I will have the least amount of stress. :)

Help me please fellow Jellies!

Your ever-faithful dog!

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Seek's avatar

Day before:

Prepare yams, green bean casserole, oyster dressing, pies, any side dishes that need oven time before hitting the table. If you’re making homemade giblet gravy (a task not for the feint of heart or new to the word “roux”) you can get it to just before adding roux and store it in the fridge pending pan juices.

Day of:
Turkey.
While turkey is cooking, reheat your dressings. When turkey is done take it out of the oven, and reheat your side dishes and bake dinner rolls while the turkey rests (it needs 15 – 30 minutes to sit and let the juices redistribute through the meat. Cut the turkey too soon and you have dry breasts). Then finish your gravy. While everyone’s eating, cook/reheat pies. SET YOUR TIMER. It’s really easy to forget the pies.

To make your life much easier, offer homemade bread instead of rolls. Bread machine FTW.

YARNLADY's avatar

There are a number of excellent sites with the information you need. Try ehow articles and videos.

jaytkay's avatar

In the next few days: Roast a chicken for practice.
Soon after that: Roast another chicken for practice.

Congrats on the new oven and I am confident you will host the Best! Thanksgiving! Ever!!

Seek's avatar

Oh! BASTE OFTEN.

Seriously. Don’t forget to baste. It really does matter. ^_^

Dog's avatar

Thanks so much everyone so far! I am already learning!

@Seek_Kolinahr Care to share that recipe for Oyster Dressing?

I should have asked if anyone wanted to share any recipes too. :D

Seek's avatar

I get my dressing (and gravy!) recipes from the Bible: The Joy of Cooking. It’s never steered me wrong. ^_^

jrpowell's avatar

My mom can rock a proper T-day. You know where to find her.

gailcalled's avatar

How about parcelling out all the side dishes so you can concentrate on turkey, stuffing, gravy and perhaps mashed potatoes. (And you are forgiven if you don’t do an oyster stuffing.)

Easy for others to bring;

Home-made cranberry sauce
Home-made pies
Decent apple cider and juices
Rolls (can be reheated)
A vegetable dish (anything but green beans, canned fried onions and cream of mushroom soup, please).
Wine/ beer
hors d’ouevres

Having a complete dress rehearsal, as suggested by @jaytkay is a good idea, but I would forget the chicken and roast a turkey.

I also think that you don’t have to shoulder the entire shebang given your four kids and mother.

How many people at table? Don’t forget that you are providing the dishes, silver, glasses, linens and general frou-fra.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Dog To do it right takes some time. Give me a bit to get back to you.

fundevogel's avatar

As far as oyster stuffing goes my family just adds canned oysters to Stove Top stuffing. Yes this is probably cheating, but I don’t care. Stove Top is delicious.

I think this is the same as the recipe my dad uses.

keobooks's avatar

I’m using this schedule this year.

JLeslie's avatar

When you make the green bean casserole use half the milk.

GabrielsLamb's avatar

I do anything that requires prep time the day of the day before, as long as it doesn’t get old if you do.

It really depends on what you’re making but most things that don’t turn, like yams, if you peel them they turn brown, so they are just best left to the day of.

The point is to eliminate anything that requires prep the day ahead and do only the things that have to actually be cooked the day of.

I do not reccommend pre stuffing any bird, my turkey remains in a brine until the day of in a clean bucket of water that I change out over a few days as it thaws out. then I stuff it right before it goes in the over to prevent salmonella poisioning.

Prep your greens, you can make you Mc ahead, if you make mac & cheese? Just don’t add anything to anything that might get soggy sitting over night or go stale, but prepare anything that simply needs to be cleaned or washed or chopped like the vegatables for the stuffing.

Earthgirl's avatar

I know what you are saying about scheduling things. That is one of the biggest challenges. Since you cannot prepare the Turkey, Stuffing, and gravy ahead of time they will take most of your efforts on the day you serve.
Prepare your side dishes the day before and bring them to room temp when the cooking is nearing completion. That way it will take less time to reheat them.

I am not averse to using the microwave to shorten cooking times and make it easier to have everything hot at the same time.

Crudite is a good starter and one that you can get ready a day or two before.

Table settings, serving dishes and utensils need to be planned. Once you have your menu plan and know what you need, get this all prepared. For a big dinner it is amazing how many serving dishes you need. (I like to mix and match usually, but for Thanksgiving I am picky about how it looks with my china.) Doublecheck that you have all the cooking equipment you need, a baster, an oven thermometer, a roasting rack and pan.
For the Turkey I use the recioe from Cook’s Ilustrated. It comes out very moist.
(I can send it to you if you like. Cook’s Illustrated doesn’t often give recipes away for free! I have it in one of my cookbooks.)

I love the classic stuffing recipe from Martha Stewart.
http://www.marthastewart.com/337620/classic-stuffing

I also always make Orange Cranberry Salad. It’s very easy and can be done ahead.
For dessert I like to make Sweet Potato- Pecan Pie. (another recipe I could share if anyone is interested)
People who aren’t cooking love to bring dessert so if they ask about bringing something I wouldn’t hesitate to take them up on it!

GabrielsLamb's avatar

I have never had Oyster stuffing, sounds yummy but I don’t even know what it is?

I make a simple stuffing with day old bread, thyme, butter, sage, sausage, celery, chestnuts, apples, carrots, and lots and lots of onion.

Sometimes I don’t even add the rest of it, Just thyme, lots of sauted onion, salt, pepper, butter, and bread cubes (day old toasted bread slices chopped into squares) is delicious all on it’s own believe it or not.

Jeruba's avatar

I have a countdown timetable that computes the start time of each step by a formula based on how big the turkey is and what time you want to serve it. The timetable is based on this menu:

pineapple and cottage cheese salad
roast turkey with traditional bread crumb stuffing
giblet gravy
mashed potatoes
green bean casserole (@gailcalled, my sons would not tolerate a Thanksgiving without this favorite dish)
squash (optional)
rolls
pumpkin pie

I also have a perennial grocery shopping list to go with it that includes all the stuffing ingredients and everything else.

My list does not tell you how to make the stuffing, mash the potatoes, make the gravy, etc., but it provides all the cues as to when to start things so they come out on time. You could use it as the basis for following your own recipes and also substitute your choice of items—e.g., different salad, different vegetables, other desserts, etc.

gailcalled's avatar

Swimming against the current here, I cooked the whole shebang for 30 years and then shared it with my sister. We never agreed on how long to cook the turkey and never got it quite right. (And there was the disastrous year of the brined turkey… too salty to even have a nibble.)

Then, thanks be to whomever, we all gave up animal products and I passed my really expensive roasting pan and rack on to a friend. Boy, was that a relief.

This year we are having a crowd; my sister is cooking a huge vegetarian lasagna and many side dishes.

I, hurrah, am having catering friends roast the turkey, make a gluten-free gravy and stuffing and deliver it in situ.

Everyone is happy, and we have to find something other than food to bicker about. (My 5 year old autistic grand-nephew eats only chicken and popcorn as of this week.)

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gorillapaws's avatar

I highly recommend brining the turkey. It is the one thing you can do to a turkey to really guarantee it is super moist and delicious. Basically you give the turkey a bath in saltwater, herbs, and other flavors such as citrus, cranberries, or whatever tickles your fancy. You soak it overnight and then rinse the hell out of it. All of that salt causes the bird to absorb those flavors, and the result is absolutely heavenly (you rinse off the salt, so it’s not salty when you eat it).

Protip: Don’t cook the turkey upside-down (it’s easy to do when you’re pinning in the stuffing). I may have been guilty of this once, but I’m pleading the 5th.

Kardamom's avatar

First of all, I would make sure that you get one of those thermometers that you put in your oven, don’t rely on the temp guage of your oven. And make sure that you cook some things in there, and test the temp long before you attempt your Thanksgiving meal, just to get a feel for how it really works.

Here are a couple of websites that give some good step by step Advice on Preparing a Thanksgiving Meal and this one from Epicurious and this one is About Everything you Need to Know about Cooking Turkey and this one for Stuff You Can Make Ahead of Time

Make sure you have an instant read themometer for checking the Internal Temperature of you Turkey

Another tip I will give you is to hire some helpers, whether it be a college kid who isn’t going home for the holidays, a professional if you can afford it, or simply a relative or two who will be attending your meal (who will probably do it for free or for a pie). Thanksgiving dinner preparation is not for the faint of heart, and should not be attempted alone, unless you are super-experienced. Then make sure you give these folks specific tasks, you don’t want them to be there simply to be underfoot. If you want to assign someone to clean the house and set the table and the decorations and move furniture do that. If you need someone to help you bake the pies and make the dips and other dishes that can be done ahead of time, be very specific on what you need them to do. If you need someone to be in the kitchen with you while you attend to the turkey, make sure you give them specific tasks to do that will help you get all of your food out on time and so that you aren’t just running around like a turkey with its head cut off. Be very specific, even if you need to print out a task list, which can be very helpful.

Make sure that you completely clean out your fridge and get rid of unecessary items (or move them to someone else’s fridge) a few days before you start this operation. Make sure that you will have enough room to put all of the items in your fridge that need to go in there, including the leftovers after the fact. Practice putting the containers that you know you will be using to see if they actually fit in your fridge. You may want to get a big picnic cooler full of ice to put things such as drinks, that can be cooled safely and save the fridge for the actual food items.

If you plan to send leftovers home with people stock up on a bunch of these nifty Restaurant Style Containers with Lids They’re easier to deal with than random tupperware and you can stack them compactly out of sight. Make sure you have plenty of plastic bags too.

For your ownself, you can use the above containers, or your own tupperware, but also have lots of freezer bags on hand for after the meal. And make sure one of your helpers is specifically put in charge of putting the leftovers into the fridge immediately after the meal. Guidelines About Leftovers

For your own sanity, and so your guests won’t keep bugging you about it, make sure that you have at least one or two big trash cans with trash bags, either in your garage, or if you can fit one in your kitchen, discreetly, or even outside on the patio. I can’t recall how many parties I’ve been to where the poor hosts forgot to do this and then people just kept piling up dishes everywhere, because the tiny little kitchen wastebasket was overflowing. Put one of your helpers in charge of trash patrol. This person should be the same person who asks people if they’re finished with their plates and then removes them (instead of the guests having to do it) so the junk left on the plates can be discareded into the big trash can immediately. I would advise getting some attractive plastic drink cups for the same reason. Your guests will have a drink, set their cup down, forget about it and then need another one or two or three. Make one of your helpers be in charge of collecting, dumping and disposing of cups and making sure that the guests always have a clean cup or a new drink when they need one. Smart and Final has a lot of different styles of plastic cups, they also carry the foil containers with the lids. If you don’t want to use any plastic cups, make sure that you either buy some inexpensive glasses ahead of time, or borrow some. People use a lot more glasses than you would think. And make sure you have enough plates and silverware, again, borrow some if you need to, but do it ahead of time.

Another thing you might want to get is several large sized plastic bus pans, like the ones they use in restaurants to collect dirty dishes. The reason being, is because you will be so busy prepping and moving food from your kitchen to the table, and people will be eating and finishing up their plates, long before you are able to wash them or even put them in the dishwasher. So if you have a designated spot to put your bus pans (even it it’s out in the garage on a portable table, or a specific spot in your kitchen so it doesn’t impede your cooking and prep. Have one of your helpers be the person who scrapes the junk off the plates into your designated big trash can and then stacks the dirty dishes into the big bus pan, so that you can wash them later, but don’t let your guests start stacking dirty dishes where you will be still making and serving food, and later serving dessert. Just get ‘em out of the way for now (preferably out of sight, even if that means laying a big towel over the stack).

If you think you will be serving coffee, keep in mind that a standard coffee maker is really meant only for about 6 to 8 cups of coffee at a time. If you can borrow another coffee maker, you can make sure that one of the pots is always brewing while you’re serving out of the other one. And don’t forget the cream, sugar and sweet and low (the last party I went to, they forgot these items, so people had to drink black coffee LOL).

And assume that you will need a lot more ice than you have. If you have an extra freezer in your garage, clean part of it out so that you can buy bags of extra ice. Or wait until almost the last minute to send one of your helpers to the store to buy ice to put in your big cooler.

And make sure that you have a stash of “emergency” cleaning supplies on hand. You should get some big bottles of club soda just in case someone spills wine on your rug. And have a spray bottle of Clorox Cleanup to use in the kitchen (you should be regularly wiping down your counters as you go along) and have tons and tons of paper towels (and extra rolls of toilet paper out in plain sight so your guests don’t have to rummage through your cabinets). My cousin even put one of those automatic scent spritzers in her bathroom, thank goodness. And make sure you have plenty of hand soap, a bottle of hand sanitizer and maybe some of those nifty disposable paper hand towels for your guests. Some people (myself included) are horrified at the thought of drying our hands on the one wet, drippy hand towel that everybody else has used.

If you need to, set up yours or a borrowed, extra folding table with a pretty plastic tablecloth if you have to. It’s often better to put all of the food or the drinks on a different table than the one that the guests are sitting at, which can become very crowded, especially if you have decorations.

And make lists, with big fonts, so everyone that needs to use them can actually see them without having to find their glasses. Your lists should have tasks for everybody who will be helping you, with timelines. You should walk through your house about 2 weeks ahead of time to figure out your problem areas. Do you need to move or remove any furniture or wires or throw rugs or pets water dishes or lamps or breakables, for safety’s sake or for traffic flow situations? Make sure you have a fire extinguisher in your kitchen.

Clean your house thoroughly a week before Thanksgiving, and then give it a quick once over the day before, or have one of your helpers do that. And then have one of the helpers give it a quick check about an hour before your guests are supposed to arrive. Make sure that the bathroom is sparkling clean and has the soap, sanitizer and disposable guest towels and extra toilet paper ready to go, before your guests arrive. Make sure that the table is set first thing in the morning and that your extra tables are set up with your drink station, and put out any not yet filled bowls and serving platters and extra napkins and extra whatevers on these tables. Make sure you have your ice. Go over your check lists to make sure you have everything you need.

And have a great time, and don’t worry about any little mishaps. Most of your guests won’t care, they’re just their for the food and the comraderie.

Jeruba's avatar

@Kardamom, you are just amazing. This is for you.

Kardamom's avatar

@Jeruba Thank you so much. I shall wear it proudly : )

Dog's avatar

I love you all- SERIOUSLY!

gailcalled's avatar

@Kardamom: That is an astonishing “how-to.” Will chapter two discuss the actual cooking? Have you thought of writing a weekly food column for your local newspaper? You have the knowledge, the experience and the gift of gab.

(Do you have a weekly local newspaper? Ours has columns for birders, fishermen, sewing, financial advice, gardening, VFW, and 4H.)

gailcalled's avatar

Speaking of the gift of gab, I meant to write “parceling.”

Earthgirl's avatar

Kardamom “like a turkey with it’s head cut off” lol….One of those is plenty for any Thanksgiving

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gailcalled's avatar

^^ Or one too many, in my book.

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