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(NSFW) Ladies: In detail, what are some good ways to please you?

Asked by poisonedantidote (21544 points ) November 19th, 2011

I’m looking to get better at giving my SO physical pleasure, I’m either already good at it, or my girlfriend deserves an Oscar, but I figure there is always room for improvement.

What are some good tips and tricks you could share with me?

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CWOTUS's avatar

Vacuum once in awhile.

poisonedantidote's avatar

@CWOTUS I’m glad to report that I do all the cooking and cleaning.

SuperMouse's avatar

I think every girl is different. Something that might please one girl might do nothing at all for another. Pay attention to her cues. If she seems to be reacting positively to something you are doing then do more of it – but don’t overdo it. Ask her what she likes. One thing that really matters to most of the women I know is that you don’t just jump right in, foreplay is huge. Talk to her about what pleases her!

Sunny2's avatar

Think about her first and you second. Works for me.

EmptyNest's avatar

Wow, these answers are so NOT NSFW. So I’ll say this. Nothing disappoints me more than when a man stifles his natural sounds if he’s enjoying himself. I wanna hear it!

thesparrow's avatar

@poisonedantidote Really? she’s lucky… My bf cooks too, but we don’t live together so I don’t know how that would work out. I’d never let a guy do all of that work, though!

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

You want detailed pleasure lists? Is this some sort of wet dream question? :P

blueiiznh's avatar

ummm…..how about asking her.

poisonedantidote's avatar

@blueiiznh Asking her is obviously the best.

However, until she met me she was “like olive oil” if you know what I mean. She is still not too sure what she likes yet. She has some requests that have been fulfilled, but not many requests or ideas in general.

Thanks to all so far.

thesparrow's avatar

@poisonedantidote I’m sorry.. what does ‘like olive oil’ mean?

poisonedantidote's avatar

@thesparrow Well, I don’t mean she is like that horribly ugly girl that Popeye chases after. I mean she was a virgin.

AnonymousWoman's avatar

I enjoy tummy rubs. I enjoy having my neck kissed and my ears nibbled at. A guy I am sexually attracted to softly saying sexy things to me in a passionate voice can turn me on a lot, too. I am one of those people who enjoy being erotically spanked. There are more things that please me, but those things stand out quite a lot to me. I think the best thing one can do is talk to his or her sexual partner about what he or she likes and/or is interested in trying out. Open communication is key, especially seeing as not everyone is the same. As the old saying goes, “Different strokes for different folks.”

bob_'s avatar

@AnonymousGirl Hey. How you doin’?

AnonymousWoman's avatar

^^ Haha. You’re silly. You can take that to PMs. :)

bob_'s avatar

I knew following this question was a good idea.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

@bob_ You just said that in a “Joey” voice, didn’t you… :D

AshLeigh's avatar

I read it in the Joey voice.

bob_'s avatar

^^ That would be correct.

thesparrow's avatar

Talking to us before sex.

thesparrow's avatar

@poisonedantidote If you do all the cooking and cleaning, you don’t need to please her in bed.

Unbroken's avatar

One thing not mentioned here is making her more comfortable to explore. I know I was always eager to please. It was something that made me umm… excited. So respond well when she does something that pleases you. Or show her how to better do something if she is curious or uncomfortable about it. In the past I have had relationships where we talked about the sex not always during but after. We said what we liked. What we didn’t like so much and what we felt and maybe some desires that developed. So yeah communication but in detail.

Also peak hours find out what hers are. There are certain activities that get me revved. As long as it doesn’t become routine. Outside the house as well as in it. And foreplay is pretty bland description. I remember at one point thinking… what is that exactly? So when we say that it can mean as little as holding hands or touching sharing a laugh, brushing your leg against hers. Cuddling while watching a movie. We, or at least, I am very tactile but it’s more then that, it’s being reassured that there is a connection. That women aren’t and object and this isn’t just a ritual to relieve pressure. Sometimes women get the impression a man could have sex with anything and that would be enough for them. They need to know you think they are worth more.

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