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IzzyAndHerBeans's avatar

Is it possible to be friends with everyone?

Asked by IzzyAndHerBeans (359points) January 23rd, 2012

I have a friend who has an obsession with being friends with everyone. I’ve assured her several times that it’s close to impossible to be friends with everyone. We all simply don’t mesh with each other for a variety of reasons. Do you think it’s possible to be friends or friendly with ALL people? Lately, I’ve been trying to branch out in my social life to appeal to all types of people, but it’s challenging.

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sleepdoc's avatar

I think it is possible to be polite to everyone, but I don’t think I could be friends with everyone.

SpatzieLover's avatar

No. Unfortunately I see this a lot with girls that have social disorders.

marinelife's avatar

I do not think that it is possible (or even desirable) to attempt to be friends with everyone.

wundayatta's avatar

You can’t be friends to everyone because you are one person. Not every person likes the same things in someone else. You can’t be all things to all people. You won’t be a person then. You’d lose your personality and then you couldn’t be a friend to anyone.

Believing you can be friends to everyone is a delusion that probably is a sign of some kind of psychological distress.

newtscamander's avatar

No. If you tried, there would always be people who wouldn’t want to be friends with you, thus “sabotaging” your attempt to be friends with everyone. Apart from that, there are just too many people…

blueiiznh's avatar

Nope. Being friends with someone means there are two people involved. That other person may not want to be friends. You can be friendly, but that does not mean hang an actual friendship.

It takes two

Pandora's avatar

Impossible. You can be close to perfect in everyway and someone will find a reason to dislike you. Often it has more to do with the other persons self esteem.
However, if someone is trying very hard to be liked by everyone, it may have to also do with their own self esteem issues. This person has a need to be liked by everyone which means that they aren’t fine being who they truly are and need reassurance from others that they are ok or they have a fear of the unknown. If that is the case let this person know that they can never really truly know if they are genuinly liked. Too many people are false in what they present and many may think that she is false as well.

EverRose11's avatar

Absolutely not. Not everyone can get along plain and simple.

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LostInParadise's avatar

Show compassion to all but select who you wish to befriend.

cookieman's avatar

Polite. Sure.
Friendly. Mostly.
Friends. Good lord no.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

It’s not desirable, for me. No, it’s not possible, in general.

Nullo's avatar

Nope. There are people right now who would kill you and take your wallet. Hard to be friends with them.

Paradox25's avatar

No. In fact it is almost impossible to do this. You can be polite to everybody, help everybody you encounter out and then go live under a rock when this is done and there will be those who still do not like or respect you. Trying to hard to impress others or being too dependent upon others for your own inner happiness are very dangerous things.

CaptainHarley's avatar

It’s possible to love everyone, but highly unlikely that you can be friends with everyone. Humans are far too variable in their personalities and their likes and dislikes.

jerv's avatar

Hell no! You can be as chummy or polite as you want, but some people are just assholes that will never be your friend.

stardust's avatar

Friends? No. Friendly? Yeah, if one chooses so I don’t see why not

digitalimpression's avatar

No. Plain and simple.

blueiiznh's avatar

Even Mr Rogers could not be everyones neighbor, no matter how hard he tried.

Coloma's avatar

Sounds like your friend has some pretty intense need for lots of attention.
No. As others have said, polite, friendly, but “friends” implies a deeper level of connection and intimacy that cannot be had when one is collecting people for ego props.
Quality over quantity is the healthy persons outlook on friendships.

College_girl's avatar

Considering the billions of people that live on earth it is highly impossible to be friends with everyone. Let alone people with psychological disorders who may fear other people or loathe them, etc.

I mean, you can try your best, but there is always going to be someone that dislikes you or just doesn’t want to be your friend.

SavoirFaire's avatar

While it is possible to be civil to everyone, I do not think it is possible to be friends with everyone. Friendship, if it is to be properly called friendship, requires some degree of commitment and interaction. There are 168 hours in a week, at least 42 of which should be used for sleep. Where can we find the time to give each friendship its due if we are trying to be friends with everyone we know (particularly if they do not share the goal of universal fellowship)?

JaneraSolomon's avatar

It would be very dangerous to be “friends” with someone like Jeffrey Dahmer. When he invites you over for dinner, he doesn’t mention that he intends YOU to be the dinner.

4enzic's avatar

You can’t be friends with everyone. Friendships require nurturing and attention to detail, there’s not enough time in our lives to be friends with everyone. If you live to be 100 years old and have enough friends to count on both hands you are extremely fortunate. Friendships are about quality not quantity. And remember being a good friend to someone else doesn’t qualify as a friendship, the feeling (for lack of a better word) must be mutual or the friendship isn’t genuine.

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