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Can men get emotionally attached to sex like women do when they sleep with someone ?

Asked by partyrock (3863 points ) January 29th, 2012

I’ve heard women get attached after sex with a guy. A very big and broad generalization I know, but I was wondering if this could be true for a guy ? Or is it just when people get to know each other more and have been around each other for a while? I think I read that after sex a chemical is released after orgasm which makes people want to cuddle. Do men get attached after sleeping with a woman, or is mostly towards women? Anyone know what I’m talking about ?

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MrItty's avatar

Of course it can be true for us. Men are not all the same, any more than women are all the same. No one generalization applies to everyone.

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

I think you should assume the emotions are the same, the vulnerable points are different. Having sex is not a scary decision. Asking a girl out is.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I couldn’t have sex with someone I wasn’t attached to. I’m letting you all the way in. I don’t do that with just anyone.

auhsojsa's avatar

Yes. I know what you’re talking about.

King_Pariah's avatar

<= this guy is fairly guilty of having become emotionally attached after sex.

Keep_on_running's avatar

@King_Pariah What’s to be guilty about?

bkcunningham's avatar

Do you remember that show years ago with Dr. Drew and Adam Carolla on Loveline? Dr. Drew use to explain that there is/are (a) hormone(s) that females release during sex that men don’t release that is a “love hormone.” I tried to find something about it and with a really quick search here’s what I found: http://www.youramazingbrain.org/lovesex/sciencelove.htm`

King_Pariah's avatar

Well, I did ruin a relationship because of it…

wundayatta's avatar

Absolutely! Sex is never just sex. It always takes place in a much more comprehensive set of interactions between the people involved. Emotions are involved, whether people are willing to admit it or not.

everephebe's avatar

“Not till God make men of some other mettle than earth. Would it not grieve a woman to be overmaster’d with a piece of valiant dust? To make an account of her life to a clod of wayward marl?”

“Well, I will proclaim myself what I am: I will now take the lecher; he is at my house; he cannot ’scape me; ’tis impossible he should; he cannot creep into a half-penny purse, nor into a pepper-box; but, lest the devil that guides him should aid him, I will search impossible places. Though what I am I cannot avoid, yet to be what I would not, shall not make me tame: if I have horns to make me mad, let the proverb go with me; I’ll be horn-mad.”

everephebe's avatar

“A very big and broad generalization I know…”
You are essentially asking if men have any feelings. So as a non-feeling man I must answer – no.

FutureMemory's avatar

Without a doubt.

Akua's avatar

It’s possible.

Zaku's avatar

Yes. I’ve certainly experienced it. Also, my sexologist reports that from sexual intercourse there is always a chemical interaction which affects the brain chemistry and affects emotions. It seems to be a device to help create a cooperative couple that will support a child in early years of life. I suspect that many men may simply be unaware of the effect, and/or their thoughts and cultural programming may tend to mask, block, confuse or override the effect.

judochop's avatar

Absolutely not. Men are not capable of feeling. We mostly just want sex, steak and coffee. Anything beyond that is ploy to get laid.

EverRose11's avatar

Of Course they do.

LuckyGuy's avatar

I find it better to be emotionally attached before I have sex with a person.

elbanditoroso's avatar

Do you mean SLEEP as in “wake up next to her in the morning”? Or do you mean SLEEP as in “share some bodily contact and fluids for an hour and then go home”?

I’m much more likely to develop feelings for someone who I wish to spend the night with and be there in the morning.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Anything you hear is anecdotal. I don’t consider myself a woman but those pseudo-psychobabble people would ignore how I self-identify and code me female and therefore a woman. I’ve slept with lots of people indicating that I have a very high sex drive, I have zero interest in monogamy and I have been with men who have gotten way more emotionally attached to me than I to them after sex. Take it for what you will.

mattbrowne's avatar

Yes, thanks to the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin.

judochop's avatar

burp , sports!

partyrock's avatar

@judochop – GROSS !! lol

bookish1's avatar

Yes. Why wouldn’t they?

everephebe's avatar

I always get emotionally attached to people I have sex with.

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