Are you the weight you were before you had children?

Or anyone you know? As part of my OO (overcoming overeating) journey, I’ve been thinking about ‘ideal’ body weight fantasies that are an illusion since, for some of us, when we were that weight, we still thought we were ‘fat’. For me, the problem within the last few years had to do with wanting to be the size I was before my two children and nothing anyone said mattered. Now that I’m kinder to myself and doing well in my OO program, I am able to ask others whether that kind of thing is even real, whether anyone else marked their pre-baby body as more perfect than what they have now. I know the social and feminist critiques behind women (and those of us raised as women) being cast off as soon as they have kids as needing to ‘regain’ something prior to motherhood and that’s not what I’m looking for in this question. Just the basics…if you are that weight or if you want to be that weight or why does it matter?