Before a woman marries a man, does she wonder what their children will look like?

I didn’t.

Yes. Both my kids (a boy and a girl), as it happened, were look-alikes, but not what I had fantasied about. Very satisfactory however. Lots of hair at birth, huge amber eyes with long curly dark lashes, slim and wiry athletic bodies and medium stature, in spite of my husband and I being on the tall side.

I gave it a thought and I was not disappointed. My wife is 5ft 3in tall. Our children took the tall side of me with their laughing blue eyes.

Both are smart, intelligent and good-looking as I had hoped for.

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@john65pennington Sheesh, I wish you had married my Mom who is 5 ft.! Lol.

My son just received his Masters Degree and my daughter is working on her Masters Degree in nursing.

(^^ Do you differentiate between smart and intelligent?)

Seems to me both parties considering a child-bearing marriage would think about it, not just the women. Both parties size up the benefits of the prospective partner/parent for all sorts of things including appearance and smarts and stability and robustness, ...and extended family (any loonies in the closet??).

I really gave it no thought. We had short and tall genes on both sides of the family. Straight and curly hair. Brunets and blonds. Brown and blue eyes. All the dominants came through, except my daughter has blue eyes.

No, not really, seems rather cold & calculating to me.
I mean, unless you intend to marry Quasimodo it shouldn’t be an issue.
Our kids are gorgeous, but then I would say that….true though.

@ucme Quasimodo is sexy.

@Luiveton Yeah but would you hump the guy?

I didn’t.

Yes. But, for me it was kind of like this…If my children had thick wavy gorgeous hair like my husband I would be thrilled, and in awe a baby with that feature was produced by me. And, if my children had darker skin like my husband I would be so happy they would not burn easily. It was very specific features I would hope the gene shake up would produce. But, it didn’t factor into why I married him, it was more like a bonus of marrying the man I loved that my kids might get some of those traits. Or, maybe not a bonus, but once having decided who I loved, wanted to share my life, and trusted to be a good father to my children (that I really did think about beforehand, the type of father I believed he would be) then I let my mind wander to what my children might look like.

Yes.

It is part of human nature.

Not really. I think selecting a woman I thought was good looking was as far as I needed to go. The rest would turn out as it turned out. My kids are quite attractive, and all the credit for that is due to my wife. Or maybe the technicians who selected which sperm to mix with which egg.

I didn’t really. Our children ended up looking more like me than they do my husband.

I don’t have to wonder. I know my children will look exactly like me and every other member of my family. We have a very strong genetic stamp, which is good, because we’re good-looking people. ;)

In all seriousness, though, I hope that my children get the traits from both of us that will maximize their success in life. That may sound like a weird thing to say, but I sorely hope my children are taller and darker than I am simply because it means that they will not experience the same physical difficulties that I have. I admit that sometimes when I have sex with a particularly good-looking man, I think, “Hm, if I get pregnant, that wouldn’t be such a bad thing.” —I hope my children get my grandfather’s eyes, though. Most beautiful shade of blue I have ever seen.

I think that would be a rational thing to ponder.

I’m getting married in May, and yeah, I’ve thought about what our kids will look like. However, I didn’t think about it in order to decide if I wanted to marry him. I’m marrying him regardless, but I definitely think about it just for my own curiosity.

Let’s just say I hope they look like him. He’s a cutie. :)

@ucme Yes but sometimes no.