Can some people only love over the net?
Eight years ago I met a person on the net, and we became great mates At the time I had a very good career, great home, great car you know all the signs of being successful. He however lived at home with his parents. He was 25 then. He was a much closed person and did not socialize with others on the sites we visited. However with me he was fine after time, chatty, funny and a great listener.
I only saw him as a guy I chatted to on the net. But as time went on, things happened; we consoled each other over deaths, heartaches and other things. We grew so very close. We moved from site to site chat room to chat room as well as chatting daily on Yahoo. Finally we fell in love.
Fast forward some six years, I started to get “ill” and fell into a deep depression. Slowly but surely I lost all my savings etc. trying to survive
I am a British subject by birth and he resides in the UK. When I became ill, he said he would try to get me over there, as I can attain benefits. You must understand that, I could not even go to the shop to buy food, dress myself, bath or do any routine chores. So was really counting on him.
He always wanted to come here to “fetch” me. He also tells me daily how much he loves me; however, here is the issue.
He does not work, and is still living with his parents. He is now, 33.he suffers from social phobias. Which I imagine is very difficult. That s about the only phobia I do not have! Over the last couple of months he started a small business and sends through a few pounds very little as he earns very little, to assist. I still have no positive word from the UK he says he has been dealing with then regularly to help get me over there for the benefits. Somehow I feel like I am in a circle with him that goes no where, we have the same argument daily, I say get a job? Come over here, go to therapy but it never happens. Am I wasting my time? He shows such love, compassion caring and understanding to me as a person but all on the net. Does that mean he cannot have real life relationships? As he has never had one. I really would love some insight into this dilemma as I am much older than him, plus am counting on him.