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Explanation to my dream?

Asked by kmk (4 points ) May 7th, 2012

Lately I’ve been dreaming about a particular person that I purposely cut out of my life. She’s been in my dreams for almost a week so far and I’m becoming frustrated.

I used to be friends with her beginning almost 5 years ago and when she began to change for the worse (such as using me, humiliating me, becoming completely selfish, etc) I cut her from my life. I just flat out stopped calling, I ignored her, blocked her, deleted her from friend sites, and threw away anything that might remind me of her. I’ve been living the good life for a year now without her. I also got married and I’m now about to move to a different state.
In my dreams she confronts me asking “what’s going on?” “why are you doing this?” “why are you ignoring me” sometimes she’s chill about it and other times she’s cursing and yelling at me but it’s always about the same thing. I usually wake up abruptly afterwards and feel just angry from seeing her. My husband tells me that I just miss the old days when she was a good friend. I don’t know what to think.
Can anyone help me out? I want to sleep comfortably again. I’d be happy to provide more information if needed.

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augustlan's avatar

Perhaps you feel that you didn’t get closure with this person. Did you have a confrontation or talk with her prior to you cutting her out of your life?

marinelife's avatar

Here’s one from the Dream Dictionary:

“Ex-Friend

To dream of an ex-friend suggests that an object or a recent incident has subconsciously reminded you of him or her. Alternatively, the ex-friend represents a lesson you learned from the falling out. You need to apply that lesson to a current issue, problem or relationship.”

kmk's avatar

@augustlan I never thought of that. The last conversation I had with her was about one of her friend’s birthday but I was already upset with her about something else she had did during the previous phone conversation. I don’t think there can be closure at this point though.

wundayatta's avatar

You’re about to move out of state. That’s a big change. It’s not your friend in your dream. It’s your own mind that has developed this character. It seems to me likely that you are questioning yourself about why you are making this change and whether the change is good. A large part of you, I suspect, is unsure.

To deal with the dreams, I think you need to bring this to your conscious mind. Have you dealt with all the issues involved in this move? Have you allowed yourself to express all your feelings, including misgivings, about this move? You are repressing something, this dream is saying. To make the dream go away, open up to what you have been in denial about. Think about it. Talk about it. Comfort yourself that you are indeed cognizant of all the issue you will face in your new life.

Pandora's avatar

I agree with @augustlan. The move made have just brought it to the surface. You may feel slightly guilty for not having told her why you ended your friendship and now that you are moving you may feel the urgency to get it done and over with for good.
I like to call it the last word syndrome. You know, how in arguements some people want and have the need to get the last word in. Well you never got the chance to do that and throw it in her face that she destroyed the relationship by the things she did. You probably are still pissed and need to get it off your chest once and for all.

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