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blueberry_kid's avatar

Can you help me find this person?

Asked by blueberry_kid (5651 points ) May 28th, 2012

I know this might sound bad, but I was in a chat room the other night, and a boy personal messaged me.

I denied at first, because I was talking to an actual friend the whole time, but he kept on persisting that I talk to him, so I did.

At first it was a little awkward, I sent one worded answers, and still tried to avoid talking to him, but then we actually started having a conversation. We talked about each other, where we’re at, and how old we were. Then he asked me for a picture, and of course I said no, unless he sent one first. He did, through email, and proved he was really a 15 year old guy. We actually even video talked to, so I know it was a real teenager.

Then we started to get really personal, and I for one thought he was very attractive, and he thought the same back. But, because we lived in two different areas, I had to log off because it was 2 a.m. at the time. We ended emailing back and forth, but it’s been 9 hours, and he hasn’t emailed back.

But, I know who he is, where he is, and I know he doesn’t have a Facebook account, how can I find him?

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Fly's avatar

What do you mean “find him?” If he doesn’t have a Facebook and you know his chat username and e-mail address, what exactly are you looking to find him on? If he hasn’t e-mailed you back, he probably just hasn’t been on or isn’t interested in talking anymore.

Anyway, I highly doubt that anyone on here would feel comfortable giving a teenager tips on how to “find” someone that they’ve never actually met. You’re right, it does sound bad.

Brian1946's avatar

How about sending him a personal message via your chat messenger?

You could also go into chat occasionally to see if he’s there, and send him a greeting if he is.

mangeons's avatar

What are you hoping to “find” about him if you know he doesn’t have a Facebook and you already know his chat and email? His address? Phone number? If he’s interested in talking to you, he’ll email you back. If he hasn’t given you any other way to contact him, then I doubt he wants you to contact him any other way. What do you hope to gain by “finding” him, whatever that means?

AshLeigh's avatar

@Fly said it all.
What exactly are you trying to find him on? You have his email, and his username, so I’m a little confused about what you’re trying to do…

blueberry_kid's avatar

@mangeons @AshLeigh @Fly I guess nothing really. I wanted to find out more about him…I guess. Now I don’t even know what I’m asking.

Well, I’ll just go with I want to find out more about him, and I can’t because we have no way of talking to each other other than the chatroom, and emailing.

I keep checking into the room, but he isn’t there. It’s been 9 hours. Maybe I’m just crazy, but I just knew he was a cool guy to talk to.

CWOTUS's avatar

Sorry, @blueberry_kid, but I don’t think many of us would help him find you either, if the roles were reversed and he was the one who wanted to stalk you. Yeah, that’s what it is.

AshLeigh's avatar

You could just wait for him to contact you, if he does, and find out more about him through conversation..

XOIIO's avatar

How do you know he isn;t some 50 year old fucking creeper pedophile?

mangeons's avatar

@blueberry_kid Like I said above, if he wants to contact you, then he’ll email you back. If he wants you to know things about him, then he’ll tell you. It’s kind of creepy to try to find things out about people you don’t really know in a roundabout way without telling them, don’t you think?

blueberry_kid's avatar

@mangeons I guess you’re right. Maybe I’m just crazy.

CWOTUS's avatar

Don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re not crazy for starting to like a guy. Not crazy for being curious and wanting to know more about him or talk with him again. (Or no crazier than the rest of us who get attracted to others from time to time and for various reasons.)

But you do need to maintain a sense of propriety about this. You connected. That’s great. Let him know via an email that you’re interested in continuing that connection – slowly! – and then the ball is in his court.

wundayatta's avatar

What was it about him that made you get all interested and willing to send a photo?

Bellatrix's avatar

And just be careful. Just because he is 15 doesn’t mean he can’t be creepy or isn’t connected to someone who is. Don’t send personal information – such as your school/address and the like and don’t send photos that you wouldn’t be happy for your mother and father to see that might show up in places you wouldn’t want them to be.

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