Has anyone kept things hidden from you in life?
What things have been hidden from you? Why were they hidden? What impact did that have on you?
Here’s an example:
He avoided sex when we were dating, saying he wanted to wait until we were married.
He and my mother planned our wedding.
As his wife, I felt his affection and love, but never his passion.
He was fastidious about his perfectly ironed shirts, tailored suits, and Italian shoes.
He was critical of any woman who flirted with him in any way.
He was comfortable being friends with much older women.
When we entertained at home, he arranged the flowers, set the table beautifully, and played the host with élan.
His frequent business trips were usually followed by withdrawal and depression.
He often brought home single men from his office for dinner, saying he wanted to give them an experience of “family” with our daughter and me.
Separately, each of these signs might be seen as insignificant. Taken together, however, they reveal that I married a gay man.
After twenty-three years, still having no idea that he was struggling with his sexuality, I was so unhappy that I initiated a divorce. Even after the marriage had ended, he was unable to live openly as who he was. It was only after he died that I discovered he was gay and that he’d had a secret male partner for many of the years we’d been married and after the divorce.
From The Sun.