When you perceive someone as being overly enthusiastic about your relationship when you barely know them, how does that make you feel?
OK, here’s a viewpoint. It seems that for some people, paying compliments might be a way of trying to manipulate you to like them / accept them because deep down they have a fear of rejection. They somehow feel that the more enthusiastic they are, without waiting for a relationship to take time to develop, that they want to figuratively pry open the bud of friendship and make the bud bloom prematurely. They need validation themselves and by getting someone to respond to their enthusiasm, it alleviates the fear that the situation or relationship might not develop the way they want / need. It seems to be a form of manipulation and even though in many cases it may be a genuine first reaction, it still feels like too many compliments are coming from fear and not necessarily from true acceptance and understanding. True friendship in my mind needs to be based on a sense of equality. That why fans are rarely “friends” of famous people.
And of course, I’m not saying I think this applies to all enthusiastic people by any means.
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