If you grew up in a very safe environment with trusting reliable parents, do you feel it left you naive about how awful people can be?
I saw a show regarding women who were abused in their marriages where the woman all grew up without abuse in their families. The common thinking is people who have abuse growing up repeat it in their relationships. These women who did not have abuse said they had no idea how it happened to them? They told no one, because it was so embarrassing or so confusing to them.
I dated a guy in high school who was a cheater and a liar and so were all the men in his family. I never knew anything Like that even existed until I dated him. Now I know the signs, symptoms, and feeling associated with lying in general and cheating. I am tuned into it in a way I would not have been without that experience.
I don’t only pose the question regarding SO’s, bit dealing with people in general. It’s annoying when a family memebr or friend makes up a stupid lie, because they feel it will be easier than telling the truth, most of the time other people know what is going on. I know your kid isn’t sick, I know you aren’t with who you say you are with, I know you are just unable to simply say no and need to make up some ridiculous excuse.
My parents didn’t/don’t lie, my world as a youngster was predictable, relatively safe, and honest.