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NSFW - How could a 48 year old guy convince his 36 year old wife to do this?

Asked by mazingerz88 (18366 points ) August 2nd, 2012

Use a vibrator. The guy couldn’t do it as much as he used to. The wife has never tried using any sexual device.

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FutureMemory's avatar

Are you having some trouble with your plumbing, maz?

gailcalled's avatar

Suggest that she try using it in private. Have her ask the women of fluther what we think about vibrators. Tell her that there is always something new (and wonderful) under the sun.

syz's avatar

(NSFW) Couples sex classes. Most adult themed stores now offer classes.

If that’s too public/adventurous for her, have a supportive, frank discussion, make a discreet purchase, and plan a “date night” to try it out together.

zensky's avatar

I always thought he was a woman.

mazingerz88's avatar

@FutureMemory Now I see the reason behind your name. Lol. Ah, the travails of having 14,959 lurve…

wundayatta's avatar

Why would you want to convince her? Why not find out from her if there is any issue she would wish to work on. And then work it out together how to solve the problem. Maybe she has her own ideas about what, if anything, should be done.

tedd's avatar

Well… he could try suggesting it to her…...

marinelife's avatar

Why does he want to? Is she expressing a desire for more sex than he is willing to engage in? I can see no other reason.

mrlaconic's avatar

I would (and I have) just go out and buy a vibrator and use it together. The jimmy jane form II is amazing to use during foreplay and the wevibe III is great for during intercourse.

Trillian's avatar

Why is age a factor?
Just sneak it in there on her and if she starts to fuss, say; “Listen bitch, do you want to come or not?”

flutherother's avatar

A Christmas present! Two problems solved in one.

linguaphile's avatar

He could take her to a toy store and offer to buy. If she’s not sure which one, the salespeople are supposed to be well versed in explaining the different traits of each toy. He could also emphasize that it’s for enhancing, not replacing (which I hope is the truth!! :D )

choreplay's avatar

Have you asked? You might be surprised, she might already have one.

Toys are often used to supplement intercourse. Using a vibrator usually brings the women (the crock pot) to the place where the male (the microwave) can be more effective. In other words it gets the female all swollen and sensitive and intercourse is that much better.

But really, ask her, you may be surprised, I was (going to leave it right there).

syz's avatar

^ That may be the strangest sex metaphor I’ve ever seen.

choreplay's avatar

Lol, you’ve never heard that one. She is a crock pot and he is a microwave. Lol

SuperMouse's avatar

Does she have a trusted female friend or sister who could recommend it? Absent that, I like @gailcalled‘s idea of having her bring it to The Collective.

downtide's avatar

He could buy one for her as a gift. But he shouldn’t pressurise her into using it and he should certainly give her some privacy to practise alone, until she’s ready to share the experience with him.

augustlan's avatar

Why try to convince? Just suggest, and tell her the ladies of the Collective heartily endorse it. ;)

trailsillustrated's avatar

Get her relaxed and ready to go and bring it out. Use it on her. She’ll get it.

psyonicpanda's avatar

My girlfriend and I use “toys” such as vibrators for her. It helps with the foreplay and adds a sense of adventure. I would suggest letter her use them herself at first because she knows her body best. then when she is ready have her teach you the way she likes it. After that, the rest is just fun and games.

mazingerz88's avatar

@psyonicpanda Oh wow, is that Marvin, the depressed robot? I have a toy figure of him. Funny guy. : )

harley54's avatar

Hey Maz, I am sorry to hear what you are going thru.I am 54 years old and have not had a problem in that department,thank god.If I you are having issues,then I would try to correct them.Talk to your wife and bring this out in the open and tell her that you want to pleasure her.I think this might make her more receptive. I have used toys with my girlfriends and ex-wife.We talked about them and even went and bought them together.I would never try to force them.There are other ways to pleasure your wife Maz.Have you tried oral.If you get good at oral sex,you can drive a women insane.You can find her G spot and drive her wild.Try talking sexy to her while your having sex.The best thing is to talk to her Good Luck!!!!!!!!!

mazingerz88's avatar

@harley54 Thanks for the post! Welcome! : )

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