Can you define respect in your own words?

We all hear this and probably even reiterate it’s connotation and implications, but never really care to find out why.

Respect is earned, not given.

Define respect as per the dictionary and then explain why you think admiration requires approval because if you have respect, the you have “a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements” -dictionary.

How does one’s admiration of someone or something require merit or justification in itself when it is something that you are esteeming or approving for your self?

I also see why people are tired of answering meta-ethical questions; it’s so demanding and time consuming