Am I playing with fire when it comes to this guy?
Long story short – I went on vacation last weekend. At the pool, I saw this guy that I found really attractive. Turns out he was staying in the same cabin as my me (he was a friend of a friend). After a few drinks and a lot of smiling at each other, we ended up dancing and – for lack of a more adult word – making out for the entirety of the night. We were so mutually drawn to each other and it felt very natural – even more than with some of the men I have been in relationships with.
At one of the bars, we parted ways.. And I woke up to him sleeping on the other couch. Then it turns out we took the same ferry back to the mainland, together. All of this coincidence is a little too much to just write off.
He gave me his number and we’ve been talking a bit, but I’m not sure how to proceed. He lives about two hours away and really wants to come take me on a date… He’s pretty charming and pretty persistent. The problem is that I know he’s a bit older than me. I’m 21 and I’d guess him at 30.. But I don’t know how to appropriately bring it up. Should it even matter?
Also, I’m not looking for a serious relationship right now, but nor am I looking for a one time hookup.. Much less a long distance one.
So, should I just tell him I’m not interested- when clearly I am? Or should I at least go out with him once? Or should I just not make a commitment either way right now and just keep talking (avoiding making any definitive plans)?
He also thought it funny that he got a voicemail the day after he met me about a job opening in my city, in his field. Wondering if there are too many coincidences to overlook.