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Should I ask my boyfriend to the homecoming dance?

Asked by Tiesha154587 (87 points ) September 11th, 2012

Next week will be homecoming week at my school,and the very last thing at the end of the week is the dance. I asked him last year and he said ’‘Yes’’. Would it be very wrong if i ask him to the dance again this year?

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wundayatta's avatar

Of course you can! There are no rules here.

janbb's avatar

If you want to go with him, ask him.

Tiesha154587's avatar

But i don’t know if i should.

janbb's avatar

If he’s really your boyfriend, you should be comfortable enough to ask for what you want. If it were a strange guy, I could see being hesitant.

Tiesha154587's avatar

Thanks, i love your answer!!!!

janbb's avatar

You’re welcome.

Tiesha154587's avatar

So what if he said no?

janbb's avatar

You probably shouldn’t ask the question if you won’t be able to accept a no answer. But I’m assuming if he is your boyfriend, that you have some idea of what he will say.

Tiesha154587's avatar

Yes i kinda do, but at the monment i’m not sure if he wants to go to the dance.

Keep_on_running's avatar

Just do it. You’ve got nothing to lose. :-)

Tiesha154587's avatar

Ok, i’ll do it this week. :-) Thanks.

gailcalled's avatar

Since you asked us, I will join in the chorus of “Ask him”‘s.

If he says “No,”, then you have your answer. If you still want to go, ask a friend to be your date (either male or female.) Let him sit home and stew.

Tiesha154587's avatar

Hmm, i might just do that, thanks….

JLeslie's avatar

If he is your boyfriend I don’t even get needing to formally ask. When I had a boyfriend in school I would have just said to him, “we’re going to the homecoming dance right?” Isn’t it assumed if there is a dance he would either be going with you or not going at all? Seems like you just need to know if he wants to go or not. If he doesn’t, but you want to, he decides whether to do it for you because you want to.

JLeslie's avatar

Things are starting to make more sense.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

If it is your school, then you should be the one to ask. If you both go to the same school, then maybe he assumes the two of you will go together. Then again, maybe not. The only way to find out is to bring the subject up.

When I was your age, I dated a guy who was also seeing several other girls, which was okay with me. He mentioned that he would be going to all of the high school’s proms in our area, and I said, “Well, you won’t be going to mine.” The look on his face was priceless. Then I found a male classmate to take me.

cookieman's avatar

Mmmm… stew.

Kardamom's avatar

Since he is your boyfriend, I can’t imagine why you wouldn’t ask him to go. If he says no, for whatever reason, let him know that you are going to go with one of your female friends, that is if you would still like to go to the dance and are OK going without him.

gailcalled's avatar

Which boyfriend ? The fifteen-year old whom you see only in church, or the other guy, whom you have been having casual sex with for the past year?

janbb's avatar

@gailcalled Ah, youth is wasted on the young.

gailcalled's avatar

Oui. Et si jeunesse savat; si vieillesse pouvait.

6rant6's avatar

If he has not already asked you he must be:

1) Seeing someone else
2) Questioning his own sexuality
or
3) ADD

In either case, I think you’d be better off bowling.

JLeslie's avatar

I really like @Pied_Pfeffer‘s answer.

Tiesha154587's avatar

My boyfriend, he’s not gay, and he’s not into anyone else. And i really want to go with him.

JLeslie's avatar

@Tiesha154587 Well, ask him, and let us know what happens.

Tiesha154587's avatar

Ok. I’ll do it this weekend.

Tiesha154587's avatar

Well, I ask him, and he say no. Then he asked me if I was going? I told him no, because i didn’t have the money. He told me that since I’m not going, that he’s not going.

gailcalled's avatar

Sorry that it isn’t working out. It still sounds like a rocky relationship.

Tiesha154587's avatar

It’s ok. He didn’t want to go anyway. He has to practice his sax for this year’s chirstmas program.

gailcalled's avatar

Surely he can find four hours for sax practice at a time other than prom night?

Tiesha154587's avatar

I’m not sure, but I’m not going, because I don’t have money for the dance.

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