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[NSFW] How different are they?

Asked by bookish1 (13040 points ) October 11th, 2012

Your fantasies and your actual sexual experiences, that is. I don’t need details unless you care to share, but I am wondering how common it is for people to have fantasies about things that they would never undertake and might not even enjoy in real life.

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DigitalBlue's avatar

I’ve had the opportunity to bring most of my fantasies into reality, and to help others do the same… or at least improvise on things that may not be entirely realistic. I’m not sure there is anything that I’ve wanted to try that I haven’t. I have to think about it, but I’m pretty sure they’ve all been checked on that list.

DrBill's avatar

as a poly Master, I’ve done everything I could think of.

wundayatta's avatar

I’ve tried pretty much most of my fantasies. There is one that I doubt is possible, and I suspect it represent more of a psychological or spiritual cri du coeur than anything else.

syz's avatar

Waaaay different.

LuckyGuy's avatar

Alas, since my prostate surgery they will never be the same. Unless someone gets busy perfecting stem cell research, I will just have to be patient.
Sometimes that makes me sad. – But not often.

Symbeline's avatar

Both are really different, and sometimes I wonder if I would even enjoy my fantasies in real life if they happened. In my head I’m pretty sure I’d like them, but who knows…they’re all fairly normal, and feasible too. It’s not so much that I wouldn’t try them, rather than not finding anybody to try them with, if I even had the guts to just say, so hey, wanna roast me alive and then bury me upside down?

Disclaimer; that isn’t one of my fantasies.

I haven’t been in a relationship for years, and the fantasies do involve some trust and knowing the person, but so far in my life, my fantasies and the real life experiences don’t match. both are a good time though

jonsblond's avatar

My fantasies were better when they were just fantasies. regrets :/

woodcutter's avatar

A twosome would be crazy fun

bookish1's avatar

@woodcutter: ROFLMFAO, I feel ya on that man.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@bookish1 @woodcutter Yeah. I like someone on the other end of the phone too. :)

JLeslie's avatar

More or less the same in real life, dreams and fantasies.

Earthgirl's avatar

There are things that are possible in fantasy that are impossible in reality. For example, a lot of my fantasies are like fast cut films. They jump from one scene to another and they may involve some bodily contortions that in real life might not really work to best advantage. In my fantasies I am imagining that everything feels good, everything is perfectly done, everything is aesthetically pleasing to the eye,lol. Real life just doesn’t work that way. Real life is unpredictable, random, not directed by you, and full of disappointments and surprises both. So, to answer your question, which I love, it’s a very good one, I am very open to actually living out my fantasies for the most part, but I accept that the fantasy and the reality will necessarily be different. You can set the stage, but you are not the director (unless maybe it is a dom fantasy, lol) Also, like @Symbeline there are things I would try out but have not had the opportunity to do so.

woodcutter's avatar

Who here think of ball clamps?

ouuuuuuuch!!

Kardamom's avatar

My fantasty is easy, just to not have to say, “Ow! You’re on my hair!” again.

Bellatrix's avatar

Different and the same. I have fantasies about things I would really never want to experience in real life but are fun and sexy to imagine and about things I have tried and liked but don’t really want (or my circumstances won’t allow me) to experience again

jca's avatar

I have done some fantasy stuff (i.e. enacted fetishes) but there’s a bit more that I have not yet experienced. One day, perhaps.

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

I have a boring fantasy life, and the things I wanted to I got to do relatively early.

The women I have known over the years have all gotten me to do things with them I thought were mildly ridiculous, after convincing me that they were not kidding.

Sunny2's avatar

My reality has been greater than any fantasies I’ve had, although I have to admit, I haven’t been fantastically imaginative. I’ve been happy and lucky with the reality.

ETpro's avatar

I have some truly wild fantasies, but over a lifetime, I’ve had some pretty wild RL adventures as well.

woodcutter's avatar

you fixing to call it quits…or something?

ETpro's avatar

@woodcutter If you’re asking me, “Not till they pry it out of my cold, dead hand.” as Charlton Heston said about a different sort of gun. :-)

There might be snow on the chimney now, but there’s still a fire in the fireplace.

augustlan's avatar

Pretty similar. I’ve lived out most of them, and some were better than others in ‘real life’, but I don’t regret any of them. I have maybe two fantasies that I’d never want to actually happen. They can stay in my head, thank you very much. ;)

vernon42's avatar

I agree I had many fantasies as a child and was able to make most of them come true, I think this has been the best part about being an adult. All mine were centered around love.

ragingloli's avatar

I will never be able to mount Rainbow Dash.

Shippy's avatar

Why do I miss all the good questions! My fantasies are vastly different to what I practice in real life. I often why they are so different or what propels them. I also wonder why they excite me so much, and if so, why I wouldn’t therefore carry them forth to real life. I often wonder a lot, as you no doubt can see !!

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