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How do you know if a guy likes you?

Asked by kwoahh (68 points ) November 21st, 2012

I’ve been talking to this guy a lot for the last couple of months and I’m really starting to like him. For the most part, he seems to act like he likes me. He always hugs me in the hallways at school, he jokes around with me and flirts with me, and the other day he even ate lunch with me (which he has never done before). However there are certain things that make me doubtful. First, he has said “you’re like one of my best friends.” Which scares me because he basically friend-zoned me. And second, he has mentioned an ex girl of his a couple times.

Do you think he likes me? I can really see myself with him, but I’m not sure if he feels the same. He acts like he really likes me, but I still have some doubts. What should I do?

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cookieman's avatar

When I was in high school, I became friends with a girl. We worked at the same place. Talked all the time and even ate lunch together. Little did I know, she liked me – because I had basically friend-zoned her.

And, we remained “just friends” for a year. She asked me to her prom “as friends” too.

Then, one day, I looked at her differently. And ya know what? I started dating “my friend”.

Twenty-five years later, we’re still married.

My point is, stop worrying if he “likes you” and be his friend. It’s a good place to start.

nailpolishfanatic's avatar

He definitely likes you, but as @cookieman mentioned: “stop worrying if he likes you and be his friend”. That’s exactly what you should do… or you could talk to him and express how you feel.

lightsourcetrickster's avatar

@cookieman‘s example is a good one.

My Mother in her – supposed infinite wisdom – once said to me that the reason why she married my stepdad almost 25 years ago was because they were such good friends to begin with.
A lot of relationships that last are those that are based on friendship more than anything else. Lovers are fleeting, friends are worth keeping.
I’ve entered into a couple of long term relationships in the past because that’s how they began.
Let time take it’s course. It may not be the only way to go about it, but it’s certainly one of the best ways.
You might want to save talking to him and expressing how you feel til much later on. Whilst he has “friend zoned” you, the last thing you want to do is mess up what you’re talking about or expressing yourself about and end up scaring the guy off.
It has been known to happen.

marinelife's avatar

Ask him out for coffee or a soda or whatever.

wundayatta's avatar

You can either be patient, or take steps to move it forward. Each course of action has its own risks. In the end, I suggest you do what feels most comfortable to you. If you want to wait for him to move, then wait, and hope and enjoy the tension. You may lose or you may win, but you’ll never go this way again, as the song goes.

Of course, if you make your interest known, it’s the same. There is no certainty, and there never will be. So the best thing is to enjoy uncertainty. Enjoy not knowing. Enjoy hoping. Even enjoy the disappointment, should that happen. Disappointment means you cared, and that is good, even if you didn’t get what you wanted.

Sorry I can’t give you any certainty, but your question is unanswerable. Only time will tell. Use it as you will.

snapdragon24's avatar

I dont know @kwoahh, the men here sound optimistic, but I’ve been in this situation before and friend-zone is exactly where he put you, especially when talking about his ex. So maybe if you played hard to get, that could make him see you in a new light and start shifting you into the gf zone ;) dont let him get too comfortable cause soon you’ll start hearing stuff about other girls and thats going to drive you crazy!

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