Do you crave love?
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December 14th, 2012
I never really did. I was so emotionally independent. I could actually have called myself an island unto myself.
Lately, I crave it. It’s a hollow empty feeling. A vat of sinking loneliness. It is made harder by the fact that I’ve lost so much trust in humanity. How does one quell this huge need. Maybe you have it already. Perhaps you have family or friends, or lovers, or husbands that make you feel loved.
How do you satisfy this need?
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Not really. Some sex satiates my temporary need.
It is best to spend some time loving yourself. Outside love cannot fill your inner holes.
I need connection too but I’ve always been this way. At times in my life when it wasn’t available to me, I found comfort and connection in my faith.
It generally goes unsatisfied.
When I was younger yes, not now. I am very content and don’t need another person to make me whole and complete. I don’t think I could ever live with someone again, no thanks, I love my independence.
@Coloma Thanks but the question was more about love, not being whole? I also like my independence. I have perhaps worded it incorrectly. Love may not always be sourced in romantic relationships. They can be found in family and friends too.
Interesting question, @Shippy. I think I used to crave love, and much of it came from the abusive situation I grew up in.
I’ve learned to live without love, and I do not feel like half a person without it. But I still crave intimate connection.
I have love, but I don’t think I ever craved it. Then again, I’ve been with the same guy since I was 17, so I didn’t have much time to crave it. I know quite a few people who do, though.
@Shippy My mistake as well, of course I have love in my life, just not manly love. haha
Love is love, doesn’t have to have a certain set of genitals. lol
I remember when I was single, and particularly when I felt lonely during weekends when my children weren’t there, craving someone who cherished me. I really do think it was driven by the loneliness I was feeling at that time. As my life became fuller and I regained my own independence, made new friends, had lots of things of my own to do – the feeling dissipated. I can’t say it vanished. I don’t think it did. I tended to only feel it so strongly when I was perhaps dealing with other issues and problems and had nobody of my own to share my troubles with.
I like beer and a females no-no parts. Love – meh! :)
I don’t know that I crave love as much as I crave acceptance understanding validation gentleness and sweetness spontanity and shared history.
Most of these I need to work on giving to myself before I accept them from others.
Before I give them to someone else.
Good question @Shippy. Very happy you didn’t leave.
I do. But then again I’m a romantic. It’s not to say that I’m not in tune with reality. I’m just full of hope and wishful thinking and seeing how either of the two can become reality.
@Shippy It is an odd thing to value is it not.
@Only138 does make a point : P
@rosehips Not at all, history brings with it a sense of belonging.
@Shippy Also it explains our point of view. We are the culmination of the past.
I’m old enough to realize this fact as it pertains to me at least: the less I crave ‘love’, the more that people, especially women, become drawn to me. Whenever I’ve craved love, it seemed to act as a repellent. I prefer the former scenerio since I can still create my own happiness without worrying about winning others over, and all the while drawing people closer to me. This is a win win for me.
@Paradox25 Oh well, when I don’t want it then it comes from all angles? Almost like pairs of shoes flying at you when you have no feet.
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