When my daughter was ten or eleven, she really wanted a dog, but as far as my wife was concerned, that was out of the question. So she did some research, and eventually settled on a guinea pig as an pet she would like. My wife was still not sure, so my daughter asked me what she could do to convince my wife and I about this.
I told her that I was going to have nothing to do with the animal. I have issues with rodents that I won’t be talking about. Still, if she wanted to convince her mom, she needed to write up a proposal, and in the proposal, she needed address a number of issues and explain how she would take care of them.
Of course, I didn’t think my eleven year old daughter would do this, but I guess I underestimated her determination. She wrote a proposal in which she researched and made a plan for the following issues”
Housing (she showed various options and the good and bad points of each. How big should the cage be? What should be in it?
Food: demonstrated she understood what guinea pigs need to eat, as well as cost of food and where to get it.
Stimulation: a plan for things that the animal could play with. Do you let it out of the cage? Will it get lost in the house? Will it chew on wires? Will it poop outside the cage? How will you clean up after it?
Provenance: where we could get a guinea pig besides going to a pet store
Medical care: where there is a vet to take care of the animal, and how much it would cost.
Vacation care: she found someone to take care of the animal while we were away on vacation.
Pet insurance: do you purchase insurance to pay for the health care of the pet? We didn’t.
I think there were a number of other things on the list, too. You need to research the animal and write it up and prove to your parents you have thought of everything, and also that you will have time to take care of everything and do your homework. All you will be asking of them is transportation.
We were impressed, and we ended up following her plan. We went to a guinea pig event in South Jersey, and got an animal—one of the few left at that point. The pet was, oddly, named by me. I just gave it a silly temporary name, but it somehow became the permanent name, even though I had little to do with the animal.
This story has a sad ending though. One day, the animal stopped eating. It looked very uncomfortable. My wife took the pet and my daughter to the vet, who gave the bad news. He had a bowl obstruction, and they could put him down, or bring him home, where he might live a few more days in extreme pain.
My daughter made the decision to have him put down, and stayed there, holding him, as he was put to sleep.
A pet is a serious commitment. You have the life and death of the animal in your hands. There’s a lot you can do with your pet. But it is a serious commitment and it isn’t as simple as convincing your parents. You need a plan and you need to know everything you can know about guinea pigs if you are going to be a good pet owner. This is challening for at 13 year old. Even more challenging for a 10 year old. I believe in letting children learn these things by doing them, but don’t expect it to be easy.