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NSFW? Have you ever had the hots for someone you really shouldn't have?

Asked by Shippy (9852 points ) December 28th, 2012

In the past, this seemed to be my favorite type of crush. I had the hots for the nerdy counselor teacher, that every one nick named ‘queerballs’. I also had a crush on a friend of mine (female). Who was much older than me, and definitely not crush material.

Most of these crushes would be categorized as strange, so were kept well hidden. Did you ever have a crush on someone you really shouldn’t have? And what happened?

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LuckyGuy's avatar

When I was in college and sharing an apartment in double house I had the hots for the landlady who was more than double my age and “very old”. I was 20 she was probably 45! My, how perceptions of “old” change.
Nothing happened. I didn’t do anything except pay the rent the normal way.

Seek's avatar

I’m sort of in love with the drummer of my hubby’s band. “In love” in the sense that I consider him a really good friend that I’d kind of like to have dirty, dirty sex with, and the pretend it never happened, and go back to being really good friends.

ucme's avatar

I kinda wouldn’t mind seeing the queen naked, legs akimbo…a few minutes in bed with me & she’d definitely be “happy & glorious!”

janbb's avatar

I did – we talked about it – he wasn’t into me that way. We have stayed really good friends.

linguaphile's avatar

Many times during my ex-marriage. I craved intimacy, approval, attention, giggles…everything I wasn’t getting.

I embarrassed myself in my own head how many random people I had the hots for. If I had written in a journal, which I thank all things good and true I didn’t do, I’d have sounded like an extremely frustrated 12 year old boy. Fortunately, for my psyche and reputation, I didn’t say a word or act on anything in my head.

Coloma's avatar

Yes. When I was 43 I had a young, 29 year old UPS guy that had the hots for me at my work in a large import company. He was incredibly good looking and had a great personality.
He also flattered me mercilessly. I was very tempted, but, even though my marriage was seriously on the rocks I remained faithful til the bitter end. It was a fun fantasy, but, I was smart enough to know that making it a reality would not be in my best interest.

bookish1's avatar

Oh, all the time… Too many to count, really.

DrBill's avatar

Many times, including a very young flutherite who never knew it.

Sunny2's avatar

Yes! A man young enough to be my son. Totally inappropriate. I stayed away from him for a year, just making occasional comments. I grew to dislike his giggle, which helped and we’re casual friends.

tups's avatar

Yes, more this than having the hots for someone “appropriate”.

AshLeigh's avatar

Oh boy.
My boyfriends friend, Matthew, is kinda hot, and he once said “If you and Josh ever break up, I’m gonna date you.” Which was really weird for me, so I just laughed.
I love Josh, so I’m not doing anything about this.

cookieman's avatar

Sort of. My friend’s mom, while averagely attractive, has an amazing Argentine accent. She could read me the phone book and I’d be enthralled.

Of course she’s twenty-five years my senior, and both my wife and my friend think it’s creepy. Of course, I’m just kidding. Mostly.

burntbonez's avatar

Everyone I had the hots for was inappropriate for one reason or another. Some were too young. Others too old. Others were friends of lovers. Others were too culturally different for me. Didn’t matter. I had the hots for them. In the vast majority of cases, I never did anything about it.

Pandora's avatar

Only twice and then one day I asked myself why and didn’t have a good reason and so the crush was over. Sometimes all it takes is a soul searching question to be rid of wierd crushes.

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