How long should I wait before contacting a guy I've been corresponding with on OkCupid?
Ok, so FYI: I’m preeeetty new to using online dating sites. I’m a 24-year old chick who’s decided to dip her toes into these new waters, so to speak.
So I signed up on OkCupid not long ago, and a few weeks in the Quiver matched me with this one particular guy (also 24) who caught my interest. So I shot him a creative message. Well, he took the bait and we went back and forth conversing for about three days.
I figured then would be a good time to ask if he’d like to meet; I gave him my number.
I didn’t hear anything for a couple of days, so I shot him a friendly message saying hey, how are you…nothing intrusive. He got back to me that night apologizing for things being “a little hectic lately”; apparently his best friend’s mother had passed away only a few days before. :/
To try and make a long story short, he told me he’d like to meet me soon (b/c I seem “cool” and similar to him and he thinks he’d feel comfortable around me “almost instantly”), but there were a few things I should know about him first: (1) he has trust issues, which are of no fault of my own; (2) he’s slow when it comes to relationships and prefers a “friends first” policy in these matters; and (3) he thinks it’s likely he’ll have to move out of state to secure a job once he graduates from college in May. Yes, so he told me all this up front and said that if I didn’t mind any of this and would be okay with keeping things low-pressure/without expectations…well, just to let him know what I think.
So I gave him my condolences on his friend’s mother and that situation. Told him I understood, having had three deaths in my family/friend circle over the past year and a half. I told him I don’t mind being friends first because I’ve never gotten romantically involved with a guy I wasn’t already familiar with anyway. So yeah, I said, I’d still like to meet.
I reminded him that he has my number and said to take his time.
Now, this was on the 5th, and I wasn’t planning on contacting him again for at least another 2 weeks if I don’t hear back from him before then, but I’m just wondering…is 2 weeks a fair-ish amount of time? I’m also wondering what people’s thoughts are about everything he laid out on the table for me—slow to relationships, trust issues, friends first, etc. (Oh, and for those who care…I’m a Leo and he’s a Pisces, lol.)
Sorry, that wasn’t so short, haha. Anyhow, just looking for a few opinions here. :)
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