Fiancé wants me to change my hair colour and cut it!

My fiancé has told me that he is extremely jelous and hates guys looking at me. I have long blond hair (coloured) which he thinks is attractive and gains too much attention. Therefore, he asked me to
Cut it and return it to it’s natural colour.
He also gets upset if I wear make up or have nail varnish.
Banned me from wearing a bikini which I have agreed not to wear but I feel the hair thing is too much, he also refuses to set the date for our marriage until I colour my hair. Shall I listen to him or take a stand on this?