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Have you ever been betrayed by your best friend?

Asked by KeepYourEyesWideOpen (345 points ) January 18th, 2013

Honestly, I haven’t been. The one person I can call my true best friend has never betrayed me. And I’m so thankful for her presence in my life.

How about you?

Thanks again to everyone.

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Shippy's avatar

Yes, that’s why I no longer have best friends.

lookingglassx3's avatar

So many times.

The first time was when I was about nine years old; she ditched me for another girl. It sounds pathetic but come on, I was nine.

The second time I was like thirteen. My new best friend started insulting me, making fun of me, and spread rumours about me – just because I wasn’t in her class anymore, something I couldn’t help. One by one she turned all my childhood friends against me (so that’s additional betrayals because they took her word over mine). I got really down about the situation but weirdly enough, she’s now my best friend again, but I know that she’s changed.

KNOWITALL's avatar

Yes, a few times. Once my bff that I lived with at age 17–18, snuggled with my ex under a blanket while we watched a movie- one week after we broke up, and it was just us three in the duplex. I freaked.

The other bff after her, also betrayed my trust by partying with my alcoholic mother behind my back and then complained to me when my mom got wild.

I think I’ll stick to having men as my bff’s, it works better for me.

Judi's avatar

Yep. Hurts like the dickins.

Coloma's avatar

Not betrayed, and I too, haven’t had a “best” friend since I was a child, but…I have let go of 2 long term friends in the last few years that showed me they couldn’t handle a healthy confrontation on some of their behaviors. One’s passive aggressive and manipulative side was really starting to show up more and more, and the other was just so emotionally fragile that she was above all reproach. The classic, could dish it out but couldn’t take it type.
I do not do emotionally immature people at all anymore, sorry….take care.

wundayatta's avatar

Yes. I told him I was bipolar and I haven’t heard from him since. But even before that, I hadn’t heard from him during the two years I was first sick. I asked him why, and he said he thought I wanted privacy and would reach out when I was ready.

Honestly, I don’t get it. Aren’t friends supposed to check up on you? If you don’t know what is going on, wouldn’t you reach out, instead of waiting? What if they were sick? What if both parties are waiting and waiting for the other to reach out?

I guess we hadn’t really been friends even before I got sick. But I had always relied on him. Always believed we would forever be friends. But we weren’t. And aren’t. And that makes me bitter. I guess I need to let it go. These things happen. People move on. Since he told me he really isn’t interested in what happened to me (not in so many words, but reading between the lines), I am not really interested in talking to him. I guess that’s the end of it. I used to would’ve done anything for this guy.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@wundayatta That sounds hurtful, W, sorry. Some people can only be there for the good times, but it’s not a reflection on you, only them.

Shippy's avatar

@wundayatta hah! I so know that feeling

Dutchess_III's avatar

Well, on FB today I found out who stole the shorts-jumper I toiled over for a whole semester in HS my Junior year (this would be 1975.) It was a person who was supposedly a friend of mine.

Judi's avatar

How did you find out @Dutchess_IIl? A photo?

Dutchess_III's avatar

No. I just happened to mention it on a thread that one of my other former HS classmates launched about sewing. She was in Home Ec with me. She knew who it was. That person had stolen what she had made too. I was just speechless. It’s like she just stole the stuff for no reason, other to be mean.

Aster's avatar

I have a friend who was also divorced and , upon meeting my fiancee, asked him “do you have a brother? Do you know anyone else like you?” I had sent him to her house to pick her up. I didn’t care and is that a betrayal?
My very close friend during a conversation with my newlywed husband and I on how hard it was to find quality people to date after a certain age said to my husband, “don’t worry; I’d date you.” Is that betrayal? I was sitting right there.
My point is, I don’t believe that you can trust your best girlfriends with your boyfriend or husband. I accept that.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I see her comments as more of a compliment, to him and to you.

Coloma's avatar

@Aster That’s really too bad. I have never, EVER, had designs on a female friends husband or boyfriend, ever. I may LIKE them, but there is no way I would ever betray a friendship like that. I have had the opposite issue, friends men coming on to ME. Nothing worse than a close friends guy hitting on you. Grrrr!

Dutchess_III's avatar

It is awful, isn’t it Coloma. :(

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