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NSFW - Guys, do you like it when she (or he) goes South?

Asked by livelaughlove21 (14579 points ) January 18th, 2013 from iPhone

I’ve only gone down on a few guys in the past, so I’m not the most experienced on what different men like in bed.

My husband loves oral sex, so I was surprised to find out that some men don’t like it. My best friend’s boyfriend says he’s not that into it and he’d rather just have sex. Well, of course many guys would pick sex if given the option, but is it common for men to not like it at all?

I’ve heard this from one other guy as well. He said, “if it doesn’t end in sex, I’d rather not do it at all.” My initial response was that he’s never had it done the right way, but maybe this is just one of those things. I think blowjobs can be foreplay, sure, but they can also be a sex act in itself.

So, guys, how do you feel about blowjobs? And men and women that have sex with men, have you ever been with a man that would turn down oral sex? What was the reason?

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Adirondackwannabe's avatar

If the woman is really into it I love it. To just lay back and surrender to the sensations is amazing. But if she isn’t enjoying it I can’t really get into it.

livelaughlove21's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe Good point. I’m always into it, or I don’t do it. I know some women don’t like to do it, and that bothers me a bit, especially if the guy does it for them. Talk about selfish.

The best friend I mentioned refuses to “finish the job” and I thought that might be an issue too. My husband probably wouldn’t like his spunk to be all over his stomach each time either. If you ask me, spitters are quitters. If you’re gonna do it, do it right.

ucme's avatar

Never has the word yes been more valid.

poisonedantidote's avatar

No, it’s terrible

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@livelaughlove21 Yeah both have to be into it for it to be the best. Your hubby is a very lucky guy.:) But I think “spitters are quitters” will be in my head the rest of today and probably all weekend..

tedd's avatar

It’s far easier and more fun to get off via sex, but I’ve never been one to turn down a blowie.

mazingerz88's avatar

Blowjob as full blown sex? I have a President that will tell you that that isn’t true. : )

DominicX's avatar

I understand that regular sex would be better, but I’m not going to say no to a blowjob—I am quite fond of them ;)

El_Cadejo's avatar

I’d prefer a blowjob to sex honestly. I think that may have to do with how often I get sex compared to blowjobs though.

Shippy's avatar

Hell no! Show me a man that says no to a blow job?

KNOWITALL's avatar

No, I’ve never had a partner that didn’t enjoy it, practically beg for it, or talk about it a lot.

Maybe you need to give your besty some pointers, some people don’t do a very good job I’ve heard. ;)

Shippy's avatar

@KNOWITALL It’s good to make ‘em beg

KNOWITALL's avatar

@Shippy Oh yeah, and to surprise them, too. One of my ex’s said all the time “sure would be nice to wake up with that going on”, okay then. ha!

TheProfoundPorcupine's avatar

The only way to answer this question is with the phrase “Does a bear shit in the woods?”

tedd's avatar

@KNOWITALL It is very nice to wake up to that :) lol

bossob's avatar

A happy ending is a happy ending. A BJ is one path to get there, and equally enjoyed as the other paths.

captainsmooth's avatar

Uh, yeah. Anytime, anywhere, I will gladly receive a bj.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@tedd Well frankly I never really knew how that worked so well in the am, due to ‘morning W%%d”, but someone can PM me if you want to explain it.

bob_'s avatar

Oh, yes. Yes, I do.

bookish1's avatar

Yes. Hasn’t happened in more than a year though.
I’ve been with a lot of guys and only one was not interested in receiving head. Maybe he viewed it as too personal to engage in during a casual fling? The rest often told me that it was the best they’ve ever had ;)
I’ve also been stunned at the number of guys who were surprised that I enjoyed giving head. I was like, “You haven’t gotten head from a gay guy before, have you?” Haha.

mazingerz88's avatar

Wish my partner is better at it. But the act of explaining to her how I like it always dampens the mood. The best blow jobs are given spontaneously by those who are sensitive, creative and cock hungry enough to have the right attitude and techniques. Imho. : )

KNOWITALL's avatar

@mazingerz88 Why don’t you explain when you’re not ‘in the mood’ or in process? A lot of women need to be empowered sexually. It’s a little bit of a turn-on knowing you’re pleasing your SO, so move her head around or whisper during how you want it, I bet you’ll be pleasantly surprised!

ninjacolin's avatar

Can be boring. Can be good. Not a huge fan but not opposed as a getting started kinda thing.
Just depends depends depends.

burntbonez's avatar

I do like it very much. I also like sex a lot. If given a choice, I’d say both. I wish I could cum twice very quickly, but alas, there is that damn recovery period that some women don’t seem to have, but most men do have.

nicole29's avatar

I’ve never been flat out turned down – but I’ve gotten the feeling that he wasn’t really into it, and would rather do something else instead. That was only one ex though, and have not had a problem since. Think it’s a lot of how much she is enjoying herself while doing it – and technique, of course. Also, it’s really important to communicate, and find out what he likes – since everyone is different. I still ask for directions and “this or that?” questions to improve. I know it’s a huge turn on for me to give, so that makes him enjoy it even more.

bossob's avatar

@nicole29 grasped it by the head…uh, I mean got it licked… uh, I mean nailed it! When a woman is into it, it makes the experience so much more enjoyable that technique becomes secondary. Don’t get me wrong; there’s always room for new ideas and improvement, but they are just part of the fun.

jca's avatar

I like giving it, I know I’m good at it and I’ll do it to completion (and swallow), but given the choice, I’d prefer to stop and then follow it up with some good old fashioned fucking.

I did have a boyfriend once who did not like to receive it, which was weird, as he was the only person I ever know to not like it, but whatever, who am I to say it’s weird.

Brian1946's avatar

I like it when,
she forces her south,
on my north,
including my mouth. ;-p

If she pleasures my south, I prefer for her to be on top, when 6 is 9. ;-)

ETpro's avatar

I’m like @Adirondackwannabe. If my lover really gets turned on by it, then I love it. My favorite thing in sex is giving oral. Therefore, the idea of 69 is super hot to me. But finding someone you fit so that it isn’t an uncomfortable chore instead of fun—not so easy. It’s only happened once for me in a brief affair, and when we both orgasmed simultaneously, that was some of the best sex I’ve ever had. I imagine 69 would be way easier in weightlessness.

livelaughlove21's avatar

@ETpro I’ve only tried 69 once and didn’t enjoy it at all. If I focus on what he’s doing to me, I slack off on what I’m doing to him and, if I focus on what I’m doing to him, I don’t even feel what he’s doing to me, so what’s the point?

ETpro's avatar

@livelaughlove21 For the most part, I agree. But the one time everything worked, the sparks flew for both of us. It was spectacular.

bob_'s avatar

@jca Hey. How you doin’?

Headhurts's avatar

I have only ever given my boyfriend oral sex. In fact the first time I saw him naked, I wantes to take him in my mouth. I give him full blown oral sex definitely once a week, maybe twice a week.

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