How can I be helpful whilst retaining my own sanity?

Asked by Shippy (9847 ) January 20th, 2013

I was going to word the question, how can I help my son with his grieving process? He lost his dad in November. But I realize as I type this, I am totally to engrossed in it. I am so worried about him that I am barely focusing and tired all the time.

So I probably need to know how to deal with myself?

He cant support himself financially. His girl friend keeps breaking up with him. I feel like I’m on their roller coaster. Meantime, being Bipolar I have a pretty inbuilt roller coaster of my own. Realistically yes, I know he should work and earn, but that wont happen today or next week. He is trying, he is busy working like a dog in ‘her’ business. Which to me is a great thing. But that work is not earning them money today, nor next week. My son will inherit a lot, but that takes time.

Please any advice, wisdom, thoughts very appreciated. (I feel very alone with this as my SO although caring etc., I don’t think realizes the gravity of the situation I am in). My son from now on is going to look to me, Bipolar mom.