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[NSFW] Do you think one night stands and/or casually sleeping around is ok...

Asked by Self_Consuming_Cannibal (4246 points ) January 22nd, 2013

if both parties are aware (before sex actually occurs) that it is just sex without a commitment?

Or do you think it is wrong?

Why or why not?

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Symbeline's avatar

I don’t think it’s wrong at all. I would hope though, indeed, that both parties know that a one night stand doesn’t come with commitment.
But if they don’t know, it isn’t any more wrong…but I guess at that point, they’re gonna be learning some shit.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Of course I think it’s okay. But really, other than lack of consent and questionable sex with animals and definitely problematic sex with children, there isn’t anything I’m not okay with, when it comes to people having sex.

ucme's avatar

It was, if I so much as dreamt about it now the wife would fashion a wind chime out of my testicles, there ain’t no waking up from that nightmare.

DigitalBlue's avatar

I see absolutely nothing wrong with it.
Yesterday, my little sister came to me and asked me if I felt that there could be a point where someone could have slept with too many people. Expecting some magic number. You know, it made me really sad. We should be concerned with our reasons for seeking intimacy, our motives, whether or not we feel fulfilled by what we’re doing, if we’re being honest with ourselves and others. We have a biological drive to pursue sex, I wish we could stop pretending that it is some kind of sketchy and taboo thing, and just accept it for what it is. Some people really enjoy and prefer sex with people that they have a deep connection with, people that they’ve come to know and trust. And that’s just peachy. And some people just enjoy sex, period, and that’s just peachy, too.

burntbonez's avatar

I think that there is no such thing as “just sex.” Even if people think they are just doing something casual, they are expressing and clamping down on powerful emotions, anyway. I don’t have a problem with people doing this, but I do think they are lying to themselves, or at least hiding their own emotions from themselves.

Leanne1986's avatar

Providing people protect themselves from disease and unwanted pregnancy then yes, I think it is fine.

Shippy's avatar

What people do is none of my beeswax, who am I to judge?

nicole29's avatar

I don’t think it’s necessarily wrong, but I wouldn’t say that it’s a good idea, either. I’ve been in that situation a few times, and I’d say that although it might not come with commitment – there are often strings involved. Saying you understand that it means nothing – and it actually meaning nothing are sometimes two different entities. (This applies more to the casual sleeping around, which I interpreted as similar to friends with benefits)

tups's avatar

Yes, I think it’s okay. Why wouldn’t it be? As long as people are not causing other people pain, they can do what they feel like.

ETpro's avatar

It’s fine with me so long as both parties understand the risks of SRD transmission and know how to minimize those risks. There is, after all, no such thing as living 100% risk free. But it’s not fine with my wife if I engage is casual sex, so I do not.

Mariah's avatar

What happens between consenting adults is ethically neutral. IMO.

wundayatta's avatar

I don’t personally like it. I prefer to have relationships that last longer than one night. However, I have had some fleeting sexual relationships where I was not in control of what happened next.

I don’t think it’s a bad thing. I don’t think we always have control over it. I do think that people who are looking specifically one one and done sex are missing out on a lot of what is good about sex. But that’s up to them.

deni's avatar

Yeah, of course it’s okay. Some people can’t do it without getting emotionally attached though so it doesn’t work for them. Or some people think it’s sleezy so it doesn’t work for them either….I understand needing emotion behind sex. I need that too…at least a little bit of it. But I can still like someone enough to want to have sex with them but not enough to want a relationship and it’s still satisfying and good for me. I understand why not everyone wants it though. When you’re not in a relationship I do think it’s easy to forget how much better sex can be with one person that you truly love. But both sides have their ups.

rojo's avatar

No, both consenting parties have certain needs that they wish to satisfy. I think sex and love need to be considered separate entities.

ETpro's avatar

@Shippy Ha! Did I do that? Well, R is pretty close to T. So what would it stand for? Sexually Recyclable Disease, Sexually Renovated Disease…?

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